My husband died nearly 3 years ago and got lots of support. People were talking to me, not just about miserable things but general conversation
Since last March, it has dried up
It is like another death to cope with
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Hi Crystal22
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Rhi
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Dear crystal
living alone since the death of my mother in January I understand ware you are coming from, in the last months of my mothers life help was coming in and I came to regard the reguler carers as almost family, then suddenly my mother past on the 5th of january and that all stopped and I just wanted to stay in my sleeping bag and die and I would have done had I not been found, we never get over a real bereathment, we just get used to it and there is no such thing as the correct way to grieve and I suspect that you are still greaving,
Let me recommend two books that I am finding helpful, the first is ‘You are not alone’ by Carried Lloyd, the second is ‘The power of positive thinking’ by Norman Vincent Peale, only you know how you feel, but when you are ready you need like all of us to reinvent yourself, take up new interest and face the world again, consider joining the church or a club(I took up bowling and starting to build a steam power unit for a small boat) consider voluntearing for charity shops or age uk, it will give you the chance to form new frend ships and form new interest, take up power lifting or paragluiding if it floats your boat, do something you have not done before and do not despair, it is a time for courage and a time for faith, the best way to honour your dear husband is to make a success of your life, do not worry about having a good times or what others in there tiny little minds think,they have probably NOT gone through what you are going through and have no idea, a real bereavement changes you and can have a lasting detrimental effect on your health and I am concerned you may be suffering a form of clinical depression and should contact experts on this site who can give you the specialist help you probably need that I cannot give,be brave and hang in there, may god give you the strength and fortitude to persevere.
Tim(the names NOT Bond!!!)
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