Hi there. I’m thirteen weeks into grieving for my beautiful love who ended his life. Ive just gone back to work on a phased return as I can get through a day without crying now. I still have big random meltdowns driving home from work and wake up everyday feeling emoty and asking what the point is and have a real feeling of loss of purpose. Im going slowly, self caring, being kind to self and being accepting of those hard extreme emotions by not putting pressure of any kind on myself. I can only do and be what I can. Im taking medication for the anxiety and doing all the wellbeing activities to keep my spirit as up as can be expected at the moment. Ive never had any physical aches or pains before and have always been quite active. Ive noticed the last ten days though that the emotional pain has shifted from a constant weight in my chest to much lighter but im now struggling to walk. My knees and legs ache permanently. I have to keep massaging them to ease the pain. Walking hurts too. Im so confused. Is this grief rearing its ugly face in a different way again. Never had muscle bone pain before. Has anyone else had grief show up as physical pains? Thank you x
Yes Tali - I saw my GP recently about exactly that problem. I was having upper chest pain like a really tight chest, severe cramps in both legs and I’ve even stumbled a few times too. He said physical pain is often the result of grief, recommended Tonic Water for the cramps - Quinine in that and prescribed sleeping tablets IF I needed them. He said to try the Tonic Water for a couple of weeks and if that didn’t work I could take the Quinine tablets my wife had - I’ve got loads. Only then to consider sleeping tablets if I still couldn’t sleep. He thought my sleep pattern was possibly due to the cramps and reducing those would help me sleep. It seems he may have been right in all this.
Hope this helps?
Marnee xxx
Hi @Tali - it might also be worth getting some blood tests done by your GP - a few months after losing my mum i was noticing a deep aching in my bones, my knees were so uncomfortable trying to get out of chairs and i felt physically uncomfortable at night, constantly having to shift position. Turns out i had a vitamin D deficiency so the GP put me on a super high dose for 6 weeks. Id never had the issue before so i dont know if the chemical changes of grief can trigger it. Plus of course this time of year theres not a lot of sunshine to be found! It may be worth checking it out as it had never even occurred to me. 