Please help

I lost my Dad last October. Then in December my partner of 18 years left me. I then found out that he was seeing my best friend in January. In all fairness I’m really struggling at the moment with depression and suicidal thoughts. Is anyone else been through a similar situation as I could do with some advice. Xx


Hi @Cj81

Sorry for the loss of your dad :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

Sorry to hear your partner left you. My partner of 18 years passed away 8 weeks ago tomorrow, so I truly understand how it feels to loose a partner :heart:

Please ring 999 if you feel you are going to act on your suicidal thoughts or ring 111 to speak to the mental health crisis team. Or make an appointment with your GP to discuss as there is help available to support you in your time of need.

You may not feel like it but you will get stronger and get through this, no matter how hard it is going to be.

Keep reaching out on here, it’s good to talk.

Do you have friends and family to talk to? Xx

1 Like

Hi @Cj81 ,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad and then the loss of your relationship with your partner. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are really struggling at the moment.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here:

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Cj81 , get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,

1 Like

I too had those thoughts and once it was all too real and close to doing it. Call the Samaritans they are very good in that moment of overwhelm they are there for you it will help to speak to someone believe me.

1 Like


Good morning, how are you today :heartbeat:

I’m so Glad your reaching out for help on here x
Keep talking it really does help