Hi,
I’m very new to this but I’m struggling alot after losing my mum in April.
i was with her holding her hand when she passed away witch was the most awful thing i have ever had to do as she didn’t go peacefully 
i try so hard to get on every day but as time has passed i feel more and more lost.
i get up every day and go to work. i fake my every day smile as i work with people who are unwell or end of life so that in itself is hard.
i want to know how to keep going because every day is getting worse.
my mum was only 63 and everything happened so fast. i actually still dont believe she has gone.
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Hello @Laura13,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Hi @Laura13 ,
I’m so sorry for your loss, i lost my mum in May 2023 to cancer and it still hurts for me today. I miss her so much and would give anything to have a hug from her. Days are good and bad for me, I’m currently having waves of intense anxiety , which was becoming to much for me so i went to see my GP who was great and prescribed some meds, which have helped me a lot. I try take each day as it comes, with some harder than others.
It must be so hard to go into work everyday and deal with end of life when things are still very raw for you, can you take some time off or maybe ask your workplace for a move etc. to help? My workplace have been great with me and lessened my workload at the moment to help support me.
Keep posting on here, i find posting and replying to others a great help, as everyone just gets it here, they understand.
Take care of yourself first, sending hugs Xxx
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The loss of a mother is a loss like no other. It is the loss of unconditional love, and the foundation of our entire life. It is Earth shattering. I am so sorry. My mom passed 12 year ago, my husband 6 weeks ago, and the only person I want to talk to is my mom.
It isn’t something you get over, you just live with it and it makes you feel old and orphaned. You will be alright. Give it a good 18 months and you will be in a different place. Miserably true. Time.
Much love.
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Hello,
Reading this actually made me think I had posted it.
I am so sorry for the loss of your Mum. I lost my Mum on 1st April and was also there with her at the end holding her hand so I really do know how you must feel.
My Mum was also only 63.
Sending you lots of love and know you are not alone xx
That’s scary! it makes you think doesn’t it ?
mum passed away aged 95 last August. Since I been diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer and yes I did want my mum too. What I would give for mum to appear to me even as a spirit so I could run to her. I’m 56 so your mum’s age isn’t that far away from me. It’s not easy facing Myeloma on my own. I got a sister and friends but they no substitute for your mum. I could talk to mum and get the comfort and feel better within myself, you can’t do that with just anyone While I done everything asked of me from the hospital. Every appointment kept and support from Maggie’s, now I wait for the last stage the high dosage of chemo. Successful that would put me in remission. But there’s no guarantee the Stem Cell Transplant will be successful. There’s still a chance it could fail. I think we have to accept life the good and the bad. There’s no guarantees for anyone! I’m sorry for everyone’s losses on here. But some how we have to deal with it, no matter how painful it is at the moment My condition is treatable but there’s no cure. I not took care of my own arrangements as of yet, but what will be will be. At least I would be with mum as people have said life isn’t the same when you lose a pearent You have a lifetime of memories to deal with every day, that randomly pop into your mind followed by the tears. I never stopped buying tissues since last August.