Prolonged grief - Both mum and dad gone - 32 years old

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I don’t really know where to start…. I joined this site because I just wanted some support and to know there are others going through the same thing.

I have now lost my mum and my dad, I’m 32
My mum died suddenly nearly two years ago. I was 8 months pregnant with my first child and she was supposed to be my birthing partner.
I feel so lost without her. It’s been nearly two years and I feel the same I felt the day she died.
The pain is just something I can’t describe but it’s worse than I could have imagined not having her here. She never met my little boy. Every single day, all day, all I want to do is speak to my mum.
Has anyone else experienced prolonged grief?
How am I supposed to be positive?

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Hello elizabeth10

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum and dad. It sounds like your grief feels overwhelming, please know you are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you will find lots other members sharing their experiences of living with grief after losing a parent.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.

I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out :blue_heart:
Naoise

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Hi, I’m experiencing long grief as well, mom died in 2018 and it still feels fresh. People say you get over it or learn to live with it. I’m still trying figure out how live with it and definitely understand where you coming from. I just try take it day by day and hour by hour. some days will be better than other days. I’m starting to feel like maybe i need a mother mentor type. That may be something to look into as well.

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Thanks so much for commenting.
It’s really comforting to know I’m not alone because sometimes I really need like I am.
Having such a dysfunctional family and no parents around being a relatively new parent.

Try and stay positive and know your doing a great job xxxx

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Hi, I’m so sorry to hear you have lost both your parents at such a young age.
I too have lost both of mine at 37 within 3 months of each other.
At almost the 3 year mark and every day is still tough .
I know that’s not a comfort for you but I hope it helps you to feel like your grief is normal.
I hope you can find a way to manage your grief .
Sending love to you

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