New here. Having a really bad day after a dream. I have no one to communicate with and no support with my grief which has lasted 14 years so far. Sorry to sound so negative. Just rather desperate today. Thanks for reading.
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Don’t be sorry, that’s the whole point of this forum.
I’m sorry you are struggling, I recently lost my Mum and I don’t know who I am anymore.
Feel free to message me when ever you need to talk to someone, I don’t have many people I can talk to these days myself x
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Thank you so much. Not very organised in my thoughts today, but sending you a hug if that’s okay. I really appreciate you replying. I still remember the early times after my loss. If I can help, I will. Thank you again.
I don’t think any of us are oganised in our thoughts on here so it’s totally normal!
Who was it you lost? X
My Mum. It was 14 and a half years ago. I had grief counselling but things just got worse over the years. Then I had a brain injury seven years ago that makes it very difficult to control my emotions. That doesn’t help. Please excuse me, because of my brain injury I need loads of sleep, so I am going to bed now. Take care.
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Arh bless you, you’ve not had a good time! And don’t apologise just message me when ever you need someone, please do not feel alone, good night xx
Grief can last your life time, it how you deal it that counts, but you never get over the loss it only depends how strong the love was at the time of the loss, that counts
Thank you for your message. I appreciate it.
The thing is, Prolonged Grief is not just grief that has lasted a long time. It is a recognised psychiatric disorder that does not respond to standard methods of living with/coping with grief. It can get worse over time and can be totally debilitating, affecting every aspect of daily life. Recent research has linked it to a malfunction in a certain area of the brain, actually an area that was damaged when I suffered my brain injury.
I understand what you mean about how you deal with grief, but in the last 14 years I have tried everything I can think of and have researched ways to live with this. Things have steadily got worse, with terrible nightmares and many other difficulties. I don’t know what to do.
I think just let it out, it releases the pain in you, which can’t be bad at all, I’m too griffin, but its a bit less then what it was, but I know its still there, and at times I will cry buckets, but it dose help me when I do that, I think you will always get up set about some one you have lost’d, and time won’t heal that, it just makes it a bit less.
Thank you.