It will be 2 years in October that my dear husband passed away, and I’m worse this year than I was the first year. Yes I got through “all the firsts” with the help of my wonderful family and friends. But I also had the “this time last year”. We had been married 46 years, together 48 years and I miss him terribly. I do go out and socialise, but it means nothing I am just doing it. But I will keep going. At some point every day I shed a tear, I don’t think grief ever ends, I just think as time passes it changes.
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@Cobham74 - hello, thank you for posting and for sharing.
I am 2.5 years in now and I know exactly what you mean by the second year not being easier than the first. It can be so much harder, goodness knows, I know.
I am that little bit further on and my life is starting to make sense, feel better, feel again on solid ground. What you are doing each day, putting one foot in front of the other, is exactly the thing to do as it takes you closer to your beloved and takes you further from the pain and shock - even though it may not feel like that today.
Hold tight, keep going - it gets better, I promise x
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@Vancouver Thank you for taking the time out to text a reply, and understanding, really appreciated. I’m new to this sight and feel I should have done this long ago. I know there are people alot worse off than me. We did get chance to make memories, some people never get that chance. And I know that sometimes the tears I shed are for me. Is that bad/wrong?
Any way thank you once again for listening
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Tears shed for you are completely right, my dear @Cobham74 - when we lose our partners, we lose a big part of ourselves, our futures, our dreams, our comfort. Never worry about mourning that - it is all part of this long process of recovery and rebuilding. Hold tight x