I know this day was going to be hard for me because today is the last time I saw my mother before her stroke and last year my christmas was ruined.Yesterday I nearly had a breakdown because everything became too much.I forgot how quickly Christmas starts.One day everything was normal then it’s like a switch everything just goes crazy.What happened to the true meaning of Christmas.Its not about toys decorations and nice foods.It should be about family taking some time out.The whole commercialisation of Christmas is just too much for me.If I didn’t have a 9 year old son who loves christmas I would not be celebrating this year.All I want to do is shut the door and say goodbye to Christmas.
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I wish you strength to face with this day and I send you a big, big hug. I feel the same as you about Christmas, it will be very very hard all of us. We feel with you, Starheart.
Thank you for your support 
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You’ve nearly got through the day now 
Well done x
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Thank you
Sending you a big hug, I’m dreading Christmas ive just had my first birthday without mum and it was hard 
no one knows just how raw it is when you lose a loved one unless they have experienced it, we all will never be the person we were before our loss, I’m thankful for this forum to know were not alone in our grief, take care everyone
Lynn x
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Sending you a big hug back.My first birthday without my mum was one of the hardest days this year.I felt like i was in a really dark place after that.I am so grateful for this community.Id be lost without it.
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Thank you everyone for your kind messages yesterday.I was really struggling yesterday my anxiety was so bad I felt like I was suffocating.Theres been a lot in stress in my life recently and I really don’t need it especially this time of year.
I understand how you feel. This will be the first Christmas without my dad… my mum is really struggling too and I can’t seem to do anything right. I’ve got 2 children, 10 and 12… they’re old enough to understand how hard it is, but still need to make it special for them. Last year was rubbish as we all had covid, and the year before my grandad died on Christmas Day. We originally thought about going away and doing something totally different but it’s just so expensive, and everything I suggest my mum says no to. I’m an only child so I can’t even share this out with anyone. She keeps saying don’t worry about me just do what you want, but I can’t leave her on her own on Christmas Day. Just so so hard for everyone. I have to put on my Christmas happy face all through the week as I’m a primary school teacher, but it’s the last thing I want to be celebrating!
It is so hard when you’ve got children because for me I can’t say to my son that I can’t celebrate Christmas this year because it’s too hard.I just don’t want to go out at the moment everywheres packed and all the lights and decorations are too much for me.I normally go for Christmas eve dinner at my son’s nan’s but even the thought of it makes me feel sick.Its like everyone’s forgotten I’ve lost my mother.
I lost my darling mick 2 years ago 23rd dec so I hate christmas too and just want it to be over so I understand your pain.
Christmas has been blown out of all proportion. My family are wonderful and the grandkids deserve a nice time so will take any pleasure possible from them.
I’m so sorry you’re struggling Grief is hard at anytime of year but with Christmas on the horizon it seems worse I lost my dear Dad five weeks ago today and feel completely lost My children are grown up but we’re supposed to be having my two grandchildren over on Christmas Day and I just don’t how I’ll get through but I will try my best for them Hope you find strength from somewhere x x
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Wishing u the same and hopefully we will try our best. So sorry to hear about your loss but this is a nice site to air our views and I hope u find some comfort from it.
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I used to love Christmas, my wife always said that I was the biggest kid she knew.
Then 18 years ago, on Christmas Day my father died. As my parents had divorced many years before, I wasn’t really close to him, but it still hurt.
Then three years after that, my stepfather, who was the man I called Dad, because he brought up, died on December 21st which was my birthday.
So Christmas hasn’t been great for me. But at least I had my wedding anniversary on December 27th to look forward to.
Until my beautiful, amazing wife finally lost her 16 year battle against breast cancer on the 27th of October this year.
So Christmas is going to be pretty awful this year.
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Hi Michael
I’m so sorry for all the loss you’ve had especially your recent loss of your wife
It does seem harder at this time of year when it seems like everyone is happy and enjoying themselves
I hope we all manage to dig deep and somehow battle through it especially over Christmas
All we can do is take one day at a time even one hour at a time on a bad day
Wishing you and everyone else strength and peace
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This really hit home with me I have just lost my Dad and the thought of Christmas is overwhelming and struggling to deal with my grief and my Moms and feel like I am letting everyone down and can’t get it right. I wish I could fast forward to January just want it all to be over . We have the funeral just before Christmas too I just dont know how to deal with it all.
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I know exactly what you mean My Mum and Dad split up when I was twenty but my Dad has always been like a Mum and Dad to me I have never had a good relationship with my Mum who is still alive Being an only child as well I think that’s why it’s hitting me so hard
I hope you find the strength to get through Keep talking to your Dad that’s what I’ve been doing it does seem to help sometimes
x x x
Hi There, Firstly so sorry for your loss. I can really relate to you as I also lost my Mom last year, I last spoke to her on the 26th November and by 10th December she was gone.
Christmas is such a hard time for many but especially for those who are alone or lost a loved one. So I just wanted to reach out to say I feel your pain and my thoughts are with you and your son. I also have a nine year old son and he misses his Naughty Nanna so much (that was his nick name for her). My Mom loved Christmas so I take comfort in trying to keep her traditions going for my little family.
Wishing you all the best, just breath, take time when you need to and I hope you and your son have the best Christmas you possibly can. Take care
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My thoughts are with you all, who feel pain.
I can’t write normal words, I am just so sad.
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Hi There, Firstly so sorry for your loss. I can really relate to you as I also lost my Mom last year, I last spoke to her on the 26th November and by 10th December she was gone.
Christmas is such a hard time for many but especially for those who are alone or lost a loved one. So I just wanted to reach out to say I feel your pain and my thoughts are with you and your son. I also have a nine year old son and he misses his Naughty Nanna so much (that was his nick name for her). My Mom loved Christmas so I take comfort in trying to keep her traditions going for my little family.
Wishing you all the best, just breath, take time when you need to and I hope you and your son have the best Christmas you possibly can. Take care
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