I recently lost my last dad who was only 59 years old after a 14 year battle with cancer.
I have never experienced grief but it’s hit me so much harder than I expected. From having not having anxiety to now feeling restless, agitated, heart palpitations, sweaty hands/feet and even feeling sick or being sick when going about my daily life.
I know it’s only been a short period of time but really just want to get back feeling “normal” again, however, I’m fully aware that life isn’t going to be the same anymore it’s just adapting to a new life now without my dad.
Just wanted to see if anyone experienced anything similar to this in the early stages of grief and what helped you through the first few weeks/months.
Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you might want to take a look at our resource called, “How long does grief last?” which talks you through the early days of grief. We’ve also got a guide on the physical symptoms of grief which you may find helpful, too.
I’m so sorry. I lost my dad when he was 59 of oesophageal cancer. It’s so hard to bear. I was just 19 at the time. It all seems so unfair. I have some very happy memories of him though, and lost my mum just this year. I miss them both very much.
I think you can only take it day by day until the days seem a little more normal. But then you still get days that come up and get you when you dont wxpect it. But it will get better. All best wishes x
I am sorry to hear about your losses. I lost my dad 2 weeks and 2 days ago but he was 89 so he had a long life, He still wanted to live and he had a strong will to live but death beat him this time.
I think you are totally right when you say you have to take it day by day - thanks for sharing that.
@A123 Those early days are hard. Your life has experienced a sudden irreversible change & the symptoms you’re experiencing are the body’s response to that. I lost my Dad 18 months ago & I didn’t realise you could go thru all these emotions. I felt sick for weeks, hardly ate, had anxiety (still do at times) my whole body seemed to ache at times too. The sense of loss is just mind numbing & at times I thought I’d probably go mad with the pain of it all. I found having a routine helped & not looking too far ahead. Finding distractions was also helpful, to escape reality for a bit. Talking to close friends was also important in dispelling unwanted thoughts. Hope this helps. Be kind to yourself too, there’s no shortcut thru grief. X