I just wanted to say hello. My partner died 3 weeks ago unexpectedly at home. He was 74. I found him in the garden. I care for my 93 year old mum who lives with me and I find her constant preoccupation with death and dying and bad things happening so difficult to deal with at the moment. My emotions are all over the place and my anxiety is spiralling out of control.
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I’m sorry for your loss. I recently lost my mum who was 94 and I think death and dying can be a bit of a preoccupation fir the very old. But not easy when you need support. There are some lovely people on here with a variety of losses and issues, so hopefully you will find some support and similar stories x
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@Opekoe Hi. So sorry for your very recent loss. You will still be in a state of shock so be easy on yourself and try to take care of your own needs. A sudden death is a major trauma, keep reminding yourself of that fact.
My mother is 85 and lives at the other side of the country. She is totally preoccupied with herself and has no consideration for anyone else at all. I have cut ties now to preserve my own wellbeing as I now realise her behaviour is nothing to do with age, it is her character.
We are all here for you, so read other’s posts and hopefully you will find support. X
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Hello Opekoe
I ams so sorry for your loss
I lost my husband in January 2023 .
i also have my 93 year old mother living with me,
I looked aftr my husband and my mother .
I know It is very hard I cannot talk to my mother ( I wish I could ) as she deaf and slowly more forgetful and less aware . Even thought she is here I am still lonely, sad as my love is not with me
You have the other extreme I feel for you and sending you lots of hugs
Here if you just want to chat more
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