I lost my dad a month ago after a short battle with cancer, and I’ve found myself grieving in a way I didn’t expect. I’m able to go about my day, feel moments of happiness, and seem “normal” on the surface but instead of comforting me, its making me feel so guilty.
Someone recently commented that they’re surprised at how well I’m coping and said they would be a mess in my position. Since then, I’ve been worrying that maybe people think I’m not grieving “properly,” or that I didn’t love him enough which couldn’t be further from the truth.
The reality is, when I really let myself think about him not being here, it hurts deeply. I think part of me might still be processing it, and I worry that it hasn’t fully sunk in yet and that it could all hit me at once and feel overwhelming.
I guess what I’m trying to understand is whether this is normal. Has anyone else experienced grief this way, especially in the early stages?
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I’m the same, and its comforting to know that other people have the same reaction
Lost both parents 4 months apart, and its exactly how you describe for both of them. After their passing I went straight into admin mode, got the important tasks done, still a few things left. I think I have the same thing, still processing as much as I can when I get space to, which is not often. Only cried in brief moments, I think my feelings come out more like a percolator, a slow drip effect.
I worry too that it will hit me much later, as I’m the delayed reaction type in general. I worry that it will be never ending uncontrollable grief, which is probably why I’m trying my level best to stay focused, functional, and in control.
It is manifesting in health issues though, run down immune system, aches and pains, tiredness.
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I lost my dad just over a week ago. Him and my mum live with me and my husband so everywhere I go I remember him. I dont think it has sunk in yet. I wake every morning expecting to see him but know he has passed. I cry everyday because something has set it off but am in general taking it a day at a time but I really dont think it has sunk in
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