My wife and I got married in 2021 and had our first child together that same year. Things were looking up for us this year.
We had just recently moved back home to be closer to family. She had gotten a new job away from her toxic ex boss. She was driving back to complete her 2 weeks when she died in a car accident.
It was a month on the 19th of February 2025. I feel like a part of me is physically missing. I miss our discussions in the evening before we fell asleep.
We were planning on having another baby, possibly a brother and the toddler was excited. She still asks me when is she getting her little brother. The counselling at her school
Isn’t helping and I now have to get a child psychologist to assist with her understanding that mummy is not coming back.
I have a support system in place but all I want is my wife….
I never pictured myself widowed at 40. People say I’m still young and can remarry after I grief. I can’t think of anyone else but her. We were in that nice period of marriage where our disagreements were about trivial things like her OCD around cleaning etc. I was looking forward of growing old with her.
I understand how you feel, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer, he had just turned 50 in June. He retired from the army in January 2022 after 24 years in the army and we bought our forever home where we were supposed to be together, we had so many plans and dreams for our future.
19th October 2024, we celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary and 3 days later we found out he had cancer, 13th November we found out there was nothing more they could do as it spread to his lungs and he was too weak for chemo.
My life now is empty and I struggle everyday without him I miss him everyday and I just waiting and counting down the days now to be with him. Im not living just existing.
Im so sorry for your loss.
Poppet1973
Know very much how your feeling, i lost her in September a month short of her 68th birthday i took early retirement in April 23 and i’m glad i did i got time with her i wouldn’t have had had i stayed at work.
Yeh it’s hard sitting somewhere on your own wishing your soulmate was there.
I’m trying very hard to stop thinking we were here we were there as it’s heartbreaking.
I’m sure we’ll all get there but not as quickly as we would like.
I’m looking forward to us being together again but not just yet as one loss to the family at the moment is enough.
Take care chin up
Thank you, if it wasn’t for the kids I would have given up 3 months ago, even though they are grown up and don’t live here.
Im trying to get there every day without him but its hard to carry on.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your young wife Afrikanman. People mean well when they say things like suggesting you are young enough to remarry but until they are widowed themselves, they can’t understand.
I hope your little girl gives you the love and strength to carry on.
Poppet 1973
When my wife went into hospital in 2014 for a big op she wrote me a letter and also 3 for our kids as she thought she was not going to survive it.
We found the letters when we were clearing some of her things after she passed in September.
She told me to not hold myself back and look for another partner as im a young man in his fifties.
We all shead tears after reading them in fact writing this now i can hardly make out what I’m writing through the tears.
I’m sixty seven next birthday but won’t be looking for another soulmate as there will never be anyone like her.
Love to all:broken_heart:
I agree with you, i have no interest in ever finding anyone else, I believe that I was meant to be with him for all these years, what I don’t understand is why he was taken from me when we could have had 30 or 40 more years together.
The funny thing is he spent 24 years in the army, went to a war zone twice, been on so many tours and when he retired 2 years ago, we finally found our forever home and he ends up dying of cancer.
Now im alone in our house when we were supposed to enjoy it together, our plans and dreams gone forever.
Yeh it’s cruel the way our futures have been destroyed especially yourself him being in all these dangerous deployments
I will always have her here in my heart as there’s no place for anyone else
You take care
My heart goes out to you …not only is there grief theres shock too beause you lost your wife so suddenly. My husband died from suicide . So i too lost him suddenly. I really feel for you i hope you can find a way forward for you and your daughter . Your right to feel youve been robbed you have !!!
@AfrikanMan i’m so so sorry for your loss it’s utterly heartbreaking for you and your daughter. My thoughts are with you, i’m glad you have support around. People are trying to help but grief is different for everyone, it’s not like you can just move on like that, after all you were building your lives together.
Awww I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine how bad you feel losing your lovely wife so unexpectedly. Thank goodness you have your baby to keep you going. Sending you big hugs and healing thoughts xx
it’s utterly heartbreaking for you and your daughter. My thoughts are with you, i’m glad you have support around. People are trying to help but grief is different for everyone, it’s not like you can just move on like that, after all you were building your lives together.