Relationship breakdown due to grief

Coping with bereavement
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Hi all,

I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this but I lost my adoptive mum this February and I’ve really struggled to keep all the plates spinning. I hadn’t had time to grieve properly until now and I finally have some time off for it.

I had a partner who was inexperienced with these things and I think as much as he tried my grief ruined it all as I lost interest in everything.

I don’t have any close family and I have some friends but I never knew it could hurt this much to lose two people I loved in the same year like this.

I’m so lonely. I feel so guilty that I couldn’t have done better and made more effort in the relationship but I was so drained and I tried to do all I could and it wasn’t enough.

I feel so low. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do now. I feel like my grief has doubled. I’m struggling to get back to work as I had hardly any time off all year trying to sort everything out, had to move house in the middle of it all.

I’m so exhausted.

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Hi @Itsbeenawhile25,

I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,

Naoise

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Thanks Naoise

Im still off work and wondering what to do next. I feel I need time but the world doesn’t seem to allow for it.

I feel lost without being in my career too.

I’m having some therapy to help me understand my situation and how to go forwards.

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Sorry about what your going through. I lost my wife to cancer just over 4 months ago. And I know how your feeling. I’m struggling myself x

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Hi Bri,

I’m sorry to hear about your wife, how are you coping with it all?

I hope you have some support around you whilst you are processing what’s happened.

It feels like everyone is on the outside looking in and that noone can understand why I’m so stuck on the inside

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Thank you for your reply. I know the feeling sue. I can’t wait for Christmas and New year to be over. Still searching for a female friend and companion. Nothing else not ready for a relationship just yet just someone to chat too and take out for a nice meal and a bottle of wine. X