Hi Everyone, first post here for me so here goes!
It is this time last year that I went home to help nurse my lovely mother in hospital and then at home for her last days. How can stop myself from going over it all and reliving what happened?
I’ve not had counselling or reached out for help before?
Even though she had been fighting cancer this period came too soon and unexpectedly. Sadly I lost my father just 16 weeks before when he didn’t recover from a sudden cardic arrest.
It feels like I have no-one to talk to despite having siblings that went through it too - we are not on the best of terms at the moment despite being close over the years.
Thank you.
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I understand it would be super difficult but I experience the same things when my mom died, I had no one to talk to and my sibling and I are not in good terms either. I feel all the memories and the flashbacks will trouble but try to calm yourself from meditation or taking deep breaths or go out of the house to get some fresh air. I am not an expert but this is all I try to do. I am sorry to hear about your mom and dad. Stay strong
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@emmagize overthinking all the details is part of the grieving process as you try to make sense of your experience and come to terms with your loss. It’s difficult, but in time hopefully you’ll be able to balance these harrowing details with happier memories from your Mum’s life. I looked at a lot of photos from my Mum’s past to try and gain a sense of perspective. Ultimately it’s torturous to keep going over things that you know you can’t change. Give yourself time and perhaps talk things over with a trusted friend. Posting on this forum is also useful in helping you to see that you aren’t alone. Best wishes xx
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