I recently lost my older sister to lung cancer and brain mets. I was with her every day helping to care for her. She remained at home and the last two days were hell. I relive those moments and find it hard to replace them with good memories, just feel alone with the pain and loss. I had family around me at times all saying supportive things but this feels deep and hard to deal with. Did anyone experience something similar ?
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Hello @HelsB ,
I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. It sounds as though things are very hard to deal with at the moment and you are feeling alone.
I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help you right now.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Take care - keep reaching out,
Alex
Hi and thank you so much for taking the time to message me.
It’s harrowing seeing someone you love in pain and feeling useless. My sister was cared for a home by the hospice team and there were initial delays in getting them to see her as she deteriorated very quickly. The lady on the phone suggested paracetamol!!
You sparked something in me about the dying with dignity campaign and I am going to look into this tonight and see how I can become involved. Thank you again, it has meant so much to know that I’m not the only person who feels this way and when you say being a carer is a bloody hard job, well, I have never experienced anything like it and it has beaten me into an awful place.
I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts xx
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