Its been 2 years and 4 month’s since i lost my darling husband suddenly. I greived so hard , and in the last few month’s started to feel life again, visiting my son in America etc. But the grief is so suddenly hitting me again. Its so difficult
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Hi Alyson 2 years for me in April and am the same .Ive made new friends sime on here also and we meet up .I take all invites for meals out and couple of days away ect .But i miss him today like the day he died .Had councilling bereavement group the first year but nothing takes away the empty lonliness and longing for him .I know i have to get to the acceptance stage but finding it so difficult 
and wonder if this is it and will never be much better sorry im so negative atm do have positive days but few and far between sending you love and support xxx
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Bless you.
Its so hard isnt it. The emptiness is awful.
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Im the same, its been over 2 years but still so hard, that pointless/meaningless thing every day, and feeling exhausted but still having to try to work and do all the life chores… it feels like it’ll never get easier…
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And it catches me in dreadful waves of sadness. Brings me down so much. A song, a smell can just bring everytjing back.
Bless you all.
2 years 5 months for me …
I still feel as empty, as sad, as lonely , as if everything is pointless since the day my beautiful husband left me all on my own…
I miss him so much it physically hurts
I still don’t really believe it’s true
EVERYTHING is still so bloody hard
And I am totally exhausted ALL the time
Still sleeping on the sofa
Everyone around me oblivious to how raw my grief STILL is.
It’s so lonely, so sad , so exhausting, so unfair, this bloody grief game we all have to play.
Love, hugs and strength to you all
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@Cathphil
It has been sometime for you love. Have you had any help? Therapy or someone whom you can really tell your feelings to?x
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hi @Cathphil
you put that so well, its so true for me too, makes me feel less alone. I dont really know anyone else who has lost their partner in life, Ive lost all my friends through not being able to go out, spent yesterday collapsed on the sofa, everyone else just doesnt get how hard this is, ‘how raw’ is the right term, scraped down to nothingness…
dunno if that makes any sense but its somehow good to know others feel the same, I feel less mad with it. I guess we have to remind ourselves that this is ‘normal’ but its hard to still give ourselves the space to grieve how we need to (physically, mentally, emotionally) when everyone else (and everything else - demands of life, bills, rent, work etc) thinks we should have ‘got over it’ by now. (actually had one ‘friend’ tell me last year i should ‘stop playing the victim’ and give her more support for the fact she was regretting ending her relationship, this still hurts so much to remember…).
Big strength to you and try to give yourself what you need when you can?
cath
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