Horrible night. Feeling so lonely and sad 
think I’ll stsy in bed all day
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Hello, so sorry to hear you’re having a hard time.
, I know what that feels like, sometimes I just want to stay in bed too and not do anything, but I make myself get up and do something, I always feel better after. I hope you start feeling better soon. Take care and God bless you and comfort you 
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Dear Karen I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering so much. We all have to do what feels best for us in the moment. When I was at the beginning of the nightmare of bereavement I found that getting outside and walking was the thing that helped me most. Exercise has helped many people on this site to navigate this trauma as it helps to reduce cortisol which makes us anxious. What I would do every morning on my walks was to look for something beautiful to share with my wife which was a positive for me.
We are all here to help. Thinking of you and sending hugs
All the best
Tom
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Thanks Tom. I’ve got this thing about not wanting to go out of the house atm in case I see someone I know. Couldn’t face all the sympathy and questions etc.
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I know how you feel Karen I found that until I had spoken to everyone one about it, just the idea of telling someone would make me cry. I would imagine the conversation and that was it, I n someways It helps to cry but look after yourself and take the time you need
Thinking of you
Tom
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I know it’s a long shot but are there any people on here from the Sawbridgeworth/Bishop’s Stortford/ Harlow area?. I don’t drive so would be lovely to meet up for a coffee and a chat with someone fairly local
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Hi Karen I have asked Helen but she isn’t close and she isn’t sure about anyone else. It would be better to post on the “ How is your day going today “ as more people see you post. I know there is someone near Cambridge. Any post this message on the post above mentioned mean while if you live in Sawbridgeworth there is a bereavement group
All the best
Tom
Sorry I keep forgetting how to get onto the how is your day posting site!
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Hi Karen
I’m sorry I’m nowhere near you and the Sue Ryder Ryder moderator doesn’t really like us posting where we live. I did try to start a chat some time ago to see if any of us were nearby.
The bereavement group I go to is at a local church, it’s not at all religious though. It’s not at all glum but if tears come no one bars an eye. There is also a counsellor if you you want to speak privately. I also visited a councillor at the local library run by a hospice. They visit there just once a month and offer another appointment if you need it.
I strongly recommend you find somewhere to talk freely, I was desperate so googled everything available nearby. I few places weren’t right for me so I just left when I could. Just knowing what your going through is normal and will in time get easier helps a little.
Sending you a hug, wish it could be more. Helenx
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Hi everyone,
Sorry to interrupt the thread - I just wanted to say that while it’s absolutely fine for members to arrange meet ups, we encourage members to keep our guidelines on staying safe in mind. Once connections are taken outside the community, we’re no longer able to support members in the same way.
If you’d like to meet people local to you, you might also want to check out the AtALoss website. It is a directory of bereavement support, including support groups. If you select your region on the site, you can see what bereavement support is available in your area.
The Jolly Dollies also run national support and social groups for widows, in case that feels helpful.
I know it’s not quite the same as meeting in person, but the community is always here for you in the meantime 
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Hi @Piclke
About from walking my dog I didn’t go out of my house for 2 months. After my husband died , sorry I don’t live close enough to you to meet you for a coffee. If you find anyone close enough to you to meet the best way to do it is by Private Message
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