Sadness is unbearanle

Losing a parent
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My mum passed away 5 days ago, after being told she had stage 3 ovarian cancer 7 weeks ago.
I was by her bedside when she took her final breath and im really struggling with the grief …the pain is unbearable.
I sleep as much as i can throughout the day as i just cant cope with the pain. Its got to the point where i want to be with her.
Ive.not just lost my mum, ive lost my best friend :sob:

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A part of you is missing sending you hugs

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Hi Trina2

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling really overwhelmed with the grief right now.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Rhi

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Sleep and eat and rest and cry . Just let it all happen you have not had anytime at all to process .
Carry on she is in your heart and will always be with you.

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Im so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you :broken_heart: I lost my mum 11 months ago, after nursing her full time for the last year of her life. The pain in those early days of loss is truly horrendous, and feeling like you just want to be with them is normal - I have certainly felt like that many times. But if you find these thoughts become overwhelming, please reach out and call one of the numbers that Rhi has provided. Cruse also offer a bereavement helpline on 0808 808 1677 but its generally only within office hours.

At this early stage, everything will be really raw, all i can advise is to hang on by your fingertips and focus on getting through one hour, one day at a time - dont think any further ahead than that. Looking after yourself physically by sleeping when you can, keeping hydrated and eating whatever you can manage will support both your mind and body. Grief affects people both physically as well as emotionally, theres cortisol rushing round your body right now, so try and look after yourself as much as you can.

There are plenty of people on this site who understand just how devastating grief is, so keep posting - we’re all here to support each other. Sending you hugs and strength :heart:

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I went through this. 2016. took me about this long to be happy again. loss is still profound, though.

Deceased parents become legends and greats, in your mind, finally.

hardest chapter in life.

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