Hi new to this site. I actually dont know what to say. All i know is i feel empty i cant explain it


Hi @Samjenny22
The bereavement of someone you care about is always a big shock, & at first I think most people spend a lot of time on autopilot, I understand it can be hard to put feelings into words when you’re feeling like this, but I have always found people on this forum very supportive, & ready to listen whenever your ready to talk about it. Sending hugs of support.

Hi and welcome to this wonderful site. It has helped me so much over the last few months. Just say what you like and what you are feeling, we are all on this journey together, all I can say is little steps, do what you feel you can in your own time and be kind to yourself xx


Thats the problem i dont feel anything ive been like this for years had so many deaths in my family in a short period of time and i cant even cry.

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Hello @Samjenny22, I am so sorry for all your losses. As @MJG and @Pandaprincess say, the community is here for you.

You mention that you don’t feel anything and that you can’t cry. You are not alone with this and it is not unusual. I wanted to share our page on complicated grief with you.

Complicated grief is when grief doesn’t seem to change or shift at all. In complicated grief, you can find yourself ‘stuck’, perhaps unable to feel sad or cry, or perhaps you feel too sad to manage your day-to-day life.

Bianca, our Head of Bereavement, explains more in this video:

You might identify with some what she says. For some people, counselling can be really helpful. Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here:

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

Take good care, and I hope you find the community to be a support to you.


Just because you don’t cry doesn’t make grief any easier, I’m not much of a crier but since my son passed away through a drugs overdose, in the early days I would cry all day. Over the last few months when I have a meltdown I come back even harder and stronger, my partner says I am showing exactly the same traits as when I lost my parents which was not long ago, we all have different ways of coping…remember there are no set rules to follow on this journey. Not sure but you may find it helpful writing a daily journal about anything, feelings, what you have done for the day, I got this idea from this site and found it has helped me in so many ways, be kind to yourself, take care xx

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I have been feeling this way for years. I have an appointment to see some1 tomorrow but honestly i dont think it will help. I honestly hope they can break me but i dont know what to say to them as like i said i feel nothing at all! Its actually scaring me a bit

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I hope speaking to someone will help you, I find this site is my lifeline xx