It’s the weekend again and I’m finding Saturdays harder to cope with. It was always the day that I had my lovely husband all to myself and was full of walks, lunches, museums, movies etc. Now I just want it over. Everyone is busy and I’m here alone. Does anyone else struggle with weekends?
I totally agree, and Sundays as well. Friends and family seem so busy at the weekends and although I might see friends during the week, at the weekends they want to spend time with their husband, children etc. but we are on our own. Sometimes one of my sons invites me to visit them at the week end which is lovely, but this weekend I am all alone all weekend. I find it difficult to motivate myself to do anything. It is the complete opposite from the weekends before my husband died and very difficult to come to terms with.
Thanks for your reply. I realise now that I must try to find new Saturday activities to distract me , otherwise I will just get really down.
@Nina58 I too find the weekends the hardest. Like you say most family & friends are busy doing their own thing. I’m constantly trying to find things to occupy my time but it’s not easy. Sending hugs.
Distraction and keeping busy definitely is the answer - but sometimes easier said than done! Personally I find good weather helps as well so let’s hope the sun comes out.
Sundays are the worst for me as I never liked Sundays and my husband would hug it away. But this Saturday I am finding rough. My family are all on holiday so not able to ring or text them at present. I know one of my sister in laws will contact me as soon as she is back. She said I can still ring as they have roaming on their phone plan but I don’t want to ruin their holiday. I just wished they lived closer.
Thank you all for your replies which were all really helpful and made me feel that I’m not alone.
Worst day of the week for me. Saturday is the day my wife gained her wings. Brings everything back to me about that awful day 38 weeks ago.
Just received the paperwork from the solicitor to fill in for probate and statement for new state pension ( not sure why 3 copies). That really brings it home he is gone firevet
I know the feeling Pudding, it’s horrible. I got mine filled in as quickly as I could and sent off out of my way. So many things keep coming to remind us, as if we need reminding.
It’s not just the distress of losing our partners, but all the many things we have to deal with afterwards.
I need to fill it in today so my neighbour can drop it through the door of the solicitors tomorrow. She volunteers in a charity shop on Sundays which is almost next door to the solicitor. But yes i want it out of the was a.s.a.p. If for no other reason than I will need the income
Yeh i do … when everybody is out there doing normal things and we are just here mourning our beautiful husbands … i feel so sad today xx
I miss having my husband there to cheer me up dont you ? I hate this world !!! Its so very crap !!!
@Deb5. Had to go out and buy a new telephone, it’s pouring with rain. My husband would have dealt with it and I have come home wet to an empty apartment. He was always so cheerful even when he was really poorly.
Life is just rubbish and however much I try to be positive, the pain and misery of losing him is always there.
I keep asking ‘why’ do we all have to bear this suffering?
Sending hugs xx
@Deb5 and @Rome18 i do so understand. Life is crap. I signed up to a new energy tariff yesterday. My husband used to do all that comparing daily rates and unit prices. Even with the penalty applying to get out of my old tariff if I have done the calculations right I should be better off. I just hope I am as good at doing these comparisons as he was but I am well out of practice. The weather seems to be crying with us.
@Deb5 yes! I used to love the weekends. We would potter about the house or garden or go out for the day. Then in the evenings would watch TV with a glass of wine. Now my weekends are so different. Just so sad. Sending hugs.
My husband and I worked together for 10 years early in our careers. We were with a company that didn’t mind employing a couple. It helped that he was pre sales and I was post sales development and support. This used to confuse some clients as they transferred from mr to Mrs. We spent sp much time together and hardly any arguments.
That’s something else that gets to you. Changing account names to yours only. Didn’t have any problems at all doing this until it came to British Gas. Tried several times to have the account changed to my name only. Gave up eventually as it was stressing me out at a time when I could really do without it. They closed my gas account and I was within one day of being cut off. Had to open a new account. My gas account name now is ‘‘Estate of estate of (wifes name)’’. Shame on you British Gas.
Made myself get up and go to our village library. Borrowed a book on anxiety and panic attacks and had a nice chat about authors with a neighbour. Bought some chocolate which I have decided will be my new Saturday treat.
It feels a bit exhausting to be actively trying to reinvent myself but I don’t think I have a choice. I can’t face endless days on my own.