Scared and Lonely - it doesn’t get better

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It’s over 18 months since my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. I know grief is a process and we all make our own journeys. While I really struggle with being lonely I cannot escape from worrying in my head. It’s a constant blight. I have friends and family but I still feel alone and without the support that I got constantly from my hubby “don’t worry” was his daily advice to me and now I’ve got no one to support me. So painful. I really have to try hard to stay positive and remember our amazing, happy, colourful and inspiring memories. Is it just me?

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Hello @MissingEsCanar,

I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.

Take good care,
Alex

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I have similar feelings, it’s been 3 years for me, like you I do have family and friends, but it’s not the same as having that one person, to hug you and reassure you.
But I have found this site really helpful and reassuring, I hope knowing there are others on here to support you Will help, I will keep you in my thoughts x

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Thanks Jilly44uk. Your kind words and good wishes are appreciated. This site is invaluable as a reminder that others are on similar paths of living without their most treasured loved ones.

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No, it is not just you. There are many of us. I lost my beloved of 64 years May 15, 2024, Most of me went with him. My support is gone and I am left alone. I have no family, no friends. I am in Colima, Mexico where we were about to finish our forever dream home when he died. He never got to see it finished or live in it, so I am grieving twice, Once for me and once for him. I wander through the house saying, Look at this Addy, I love you Addy. I miss you Addy. I weep over every memory and sometimes most of the day. I crawl into that empty bed every night and hug his pillow and cry myself to sleep. I do understand what you are going through. If you want to chat please chat with me. Love Jack

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I totally get it. I’ve recently moved home as my finances are strained.