Hi, please forgive
Me, 1st time on here. It has taken me almost 4 years to realise that I need advice and maybe support from people who understand.
I have family however I now feel they think I should be ‘moving on’, not want to talk about my husband.
My husband died in April 2019 6 weeks after being told he had terminal cancer. In that few months of tests and after diagnosis, we had strangely a wonderful time, doing things he wanted to do, seeing people he loved, ending in a large family break in our fave place in Cornwall, at which we had to
Come home a day early as he felt unwell, drove him straight to hospital as advised, ( he even made me stop for coffee on way home!!). We were told by doctor a night of oxygen and some antibiotics and I could take him home in morning. Had phone call early to say he wasn’t well and he wanted me. We then had 2 days where all the family were there and he passed away 48 hours after going in.
I thought I was coping. But I miss him so badly. We had been together 33 years.
Probably am feeling more upset now as he was always my rock, we had been through a lot together. In the last year
My youngest son moved out, so just the dog and me now, however I admit, (don’t quote me haha) that I actually love living on my own. Go out the house is tidy come back still the same!! I would have my husband like a shot, we had so many plans for when they moved out….
Also I was diagnosed with breast cancer last June, during the pre op was found I have a serious heart problem, which had to be dealt with before breast as was told my risk of dying on operating table under anaesthetic was a lot higher than was good. So had heart issue dealt with in September however breast cannot be dealt with until March as have to allow heart to settle. It scares me. I know slow growing small tumour, however of course scary. And I look for my husband, to talk too, he used to make me smile when I was upset, just to be held.
I don’t feel my Mother understands, very much doesn’t want me to talk about him, feels should be going out more, maybe find a companion, and the best one ‘how do you think I would feel if your dad died, we have been together 60 years’
My 3 sons have been a great support, however even they feel and have given me
Permission to go
On dates!!!
I have a small circle of close girlfriends, however they are all married, I have no one I know closely that has lost a partner.
Sorry have rambled, but missing him is a physical ache, tears have been coming so easily, and sleep and appetite is not good. Why after almost 4 years am I feeling so low? Is it because of the happenings in last year?
Thank you if you have read to the end of this….