Oh my goodness poor Alan, just too much pain for him so very very sad
Hi Alan
I’m so sorry for your loss, it is at the same time unbearably painful and numbing, I swing from one to the other.
I met my husband in primary school and we first dated at 14 then again at 17 and were together for 31 short years, I lost him last month, no illness, just gone sudden in the early hours of the morning. I feel lost bobbing in a giant ocean and the only thing that keeps me going is my children. I live one day at a time, and that is enough for me. This forum has been a lifeline though , hearing that those wild thoughts and feelings are not mine alone.
Sending love x
So terribly terribly sad. Nobody should experience such pain. May he find comfort with his family members and wife.
Lost for words really as no words appear to be enough. 
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So awful 
terribly sorry to hear the sad news.
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That sounds so similar to me. We went to primary school together, dated properly from the age of 16. Together for 34 years. He went out for a run, collapsed and died before I could get to him. No warning. My happy life changed to an existence. Sending hugs
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So sorry
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Oh no - I hadn’t realised. He was coping with so much. It’s so cruel.
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I guess that’s all any of us can hope for that some day when we go we find peace with the people we lost. Hugs to you all x
Jules, I’m so sorry, it’s a pain so all in compassing 
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Rip Alan, may you be with your beautiful family again, god bless xx
So sad to read about this, R.I.P Alan x
Hello everyone,
I just wanted to reach out to you all following @Lostinlimbo’s post on Friday evening and the upsetting news about Alan. I’d also like to thank you for your concern and the ways you have responded since.
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