After another night of no sleep, well maybe one hour i have woken up with a raging headache and an even worse sore throat. Ive realised im making myself poorly and he wouldnt want this. Realised that i havent eaten or even drank anything either
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Sleep deprivation is terrible,can you get some sleep later in the day,I struggle sleeping and end up going to bed in the afternoon which probably isn’t a good idea but I catch sleep when I can.You must try eating some half healthy food and drink plenty of fluids or it’s all going to get worse for you,I know how hard it is.
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Thanks. Im trying i really am but everything seems totally and utterly pointless
Hi @Cazzab15,
Sorry to hear your struggling 
. I know it’s hard to find the energy, especially when a bereavement is resent. Sending hugs of support.
Its been a week and im finding each day harder and harder
@Cazzab15 Sorry to hear that you are suffering… and not sleeping well. I am the opposite and sleep to much. I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly 18 months ago and know what a struggle this new life is. I don’t go to bed before midnight as no point but apart from waking up a few times to use the loo I sleep ok. Most probably to do with all the meds I am on and working long hours and generally keeping busy filling my time. Hopefully in time you will adjust and have a routine. Take care and big hugs xx
Thanks you. He only passed away a week ago and very unexpectedly on a lads weekend away. Im off work right now so maybe in a few weeks when im back my time will be filled
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I am now 6 weeks in and I can relate to what you’re feeling so well! The first couple of weeks passed in a blur of not eating, not sleeping and drinking too much! But I am very slowly starting to get into some sort of routine but I’ve had to work at it. I still have my two adult sons living at home which has helped hugely. I started cooking the evening meal for us all after about 2 weeks as it helps me fill the evenings and make them a little shorter. I’m still drinking too much but that is a work in progress! Don’t expect too much of yourself but try to ensure you eat little snacks throughout the day and drink plenty of water. He would be worried about you and would not want you to be ill xxx
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You must eat @Cazzab15 ; but I know it’s hard in the first two weeks. Try a tin of soup, or one of those protein shakes, just to get some nutrients.
Very early days for you… I couldn’t even function in the early days. You will be in shock and numb. Take one hour at a time as your emotions are going to be very heightened. I do hope that you have got support from family and friends and not on your own…big hugs @Cazzab15 Xx
He had no family or NOK so gotta deal with it all alone
So sorry to hear you are dealing with this alone. I know how it all feels but you must drink liquids and maybe try some soup.
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I am similar and doctor said i have lost far too much weight and need to eat more !. You are right our loved ones would not want us to be like this, Lets start from tomorrow and look after ourselves better, winter is coming and it brings more colds and things so we need to get healthier.
On the sleep side of things I am terrible too but get about 4 to 5 hours now, one tip I can give is to take an anti histamine a coupe of hours before bedtime they do help you to sleep longer which will be good for mind and body. Take the ones with cetirizine in them as they are the drowsy ones. They are non addictive but make sure you are not still sleepy the next day if you are gong to drive. I got a weeks supply some from my GP so know they are safe. You can buy them very cheaply at the supermarkets. X hope this helps
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If you are drinking tea at all switch it to Chamomile, drinking it through the afternoon does make me drowsy in the evening ready for bed.
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