Selfish

Losing a partner
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I want to know if I am being selfish,my wife passed away fourteen weeks ago,the only two people I can rely on is my daughter and my sister,my sister has her own health problems so is pretty restricted,my daughter has a new partner for around a year,it seems her empathy recently has tailed right off,whereas I used to get regular visits now it’s an occasional call or txt,she spent two weeks on holiday recently and I hardly heard from her,it just seems as though she is only concentrating on her partner and not much else,other family and friends have disappeared into the ether.thank you.

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No Ron your not been selfish at all I lost my husband 8 weks ago and I seldom hear from any of my family,in fact i was told this is my new life and I have to get use to it. I know there lifes go on but a bit of empathy wouldnt hurt. Xx

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@Ron11

No you are not being selfish.

We have had the most devastating loss and need support.

I understand as I am in a very similar situation.

I wish others understood but sadly they don’t and of course their lives continue.

I wish our lives were different and that people were not drifting away.
I wish I didn’t feel abandoned by practically everyone.

However, we are not abandoned on here.

Sending a very big hug,

Rose x

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Thanks for understanding Rose,quite frankly I don’t know if I am on my head or my Axxx you’re so supporting as ever.
Sending a big hug back.
Ron

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Thanks Jo,your support is so appreciated.
Love Ron.

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Always Ron andbif you need to ever chatvyou can always message me anytime. Love Jo xxx

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Ive had the same thing from my kids @Ron11 thwy just concentrate on themselves. So sorry youre experiencing this too - its hard for us … x

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Oh rose, such lovely words. Im so sad today … i keep thinking it might get better but it doesnt :frowning: so many things in life to deal with by ourselves - its so bloody tough sometines. My parents have suddenly got old too so that’s not helping… my dad got alziemhers and my mum is in hospital … its so sad some days and really need my husband here and hes not here … xx

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Hello,

it is very tough.

I am so sorry, it is difficult when we don’t have our husbands.

We have to pick ourselves up so often don’t we.

We are here supporting each other, thank goodness!

Sending a big hug.

Love,

Rose xx

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Thanks @RoseGarden but one bit of good news is they discharging my mum from hospital in next few days … my dad rang me yesterday, missed my call and then he forgot he rang … :frowning: xx

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