After a loved one dies, it is common to feel overwhelmed by upsetting memories – perhaps of the time they were ill or dying. Some people suffer very vivid flashbacks of these times. It can feel as though happy memories of their life before this have faded altogether.
However, in time, people find that more positive memories do start to return. They start to be able to look back with a smile, even if it feels bittersweet. Remembering them can be an important and positive thing, so I thought I’d see if anybody wants to talk about their happy memories.
Can you share a favourite memory of your loved one? Something that sums up the way you would like to remember them?
Here are some that people have previously shared on this site:
“We talk about happy times, funny times, the things their dad did that were really silly. - like can you remember the day your dad put in a new pair of jeans with all the school shirts and they all came out blue?” - Jeannie
“My dad bought me my first horse, him and my mum made many sacrifices to let me pursue my hobby and it is one of the memories of growing up that make me eternally grateful for having such a supportive family.” - laurajanktink
“Mum loved shopping, she was a bargain hunter.” - Sonny