It doesn’t matter if he was in a care home. He is your husband who you love and the grief is still as strong as if he was with you at home. I lost my husband just over 7 weeks ago and the pain is immense. He died at home and I can’t believe it has happened. I feel like I am in a bad dream that I can’t wake up from. I just take one day at a time and have a weep every day which after I do feel a bit better. I too am trying to be strong and carry on but it is hard. My husband would not want me to be sad all the time, so I will try to feel better for him. Just think of your husband with a smile, he’ll be watching over you. Stay strong xx
@Jan72 I am sorry you lost your husband too, and thanks for your wise words. I too cry most days, although this week has felt a tiny bit better than the last few, so maybe things are improving, very slowly. I miss him so much, but I know life is precious and I should make the most of mine. It does help a tiny bit to know I am not alone, and that we are all suffering through this awful pain together. Take care.
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I’m sorry to say I think you are going to struggle for a long time yet. Don’t be angry with others. In the most part they mean well. Unfortunately they have not got the faintest idea what you are going through - and their best advice would be no advice. My wife passed nearly a year ago and I will never get over it. My advice (for what it’s worth) is spend as much time as you can with your children.
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Hi, I know what you mean by feeling isolated and bereft. It’s now coming up for six months since I lost my wife and best friend. I went away with my daughter for a little break, but coming back to an empty house was heartbreaking. My wife was a loving, funny person who lit up the house and kept us going and I know in my heart she would be urging me to not be so sad but when I look around at night I just feel bereft. Miss her so, so much it physically hurts. Thanks for listening and sharing.
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I’m so sorry. Unfortunately there are so many of us who are feeling exactly the same, and there is nothing at all which will help.
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