Hi, I lost dad suddenly when I was 16, & I’m now middle aged. I find now I’m still triggered sometimes, & if I watch a film where someone has lost parents, or even just someone, I can’t seem to prevent myself from crying! I went to the cinema to watch ‘My Mother’s Wedding’ recently, & hadn’t known it was about parent loss, & could not stop the tears - it’s quite embarrassing as I’m not sure I should get like this now, & when I’m watching things with family members they don’t seem to get triggered. Also an old friend had a long rant at me 2 years ago saying I should move on, so I feel I’ve failed somehow, & I still don’t know how.
Hi @Njay,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
-
Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
-
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
-
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex
1 Like
Hello Njay, we are humans, we’ll always miss our loved ones, time and distance does not diminish that…we remember, we cry because we loved so much…have a blessed good night.
1 Like
Thank you for your replies x
1 Like
Hi, of course you’ve not failed. You sound like a lovely caring person. I was 16 when my dad was killed in a road accident. I’m 71 now and I still remember him vividly and get sad . I’m usually triggered by Irish music and songs as they often depict loss and hardship. Dad worked on the building sites after he and mum came over from Ireland after WW2. He had a hard life, working sometimes seven days a week. The person who granted at you about moving on really hasn’t a clue. Take care