Sibling loss

My sister 8 yrs older and I were estranged …linked only by caring for our mum 94.

She died 3 weeks ago leaving my brother and I to start to find ways to fill in the huge gaps around parental care. Thry were/are both retired I still work.

I take anti depressants and have found myself unable to cry but I find myself with mouth ulcers a sore throat and feeling generally rundown.

My employer has been brilliant allowung me to take a day at a time - particularly around parent care.

I feel fragile ill and totally confused. That we were estranged does not make her loss any easier to bear frankly

Hello @Tapestry,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,