Six months ago tonight I got the phonecall to say that my younger sister had taken her own life. She was my best friend and I loved her so much. Six years ago she lost her beautiful baby boy and her mental health never really recovered. She seemed happy quite a lot of the time and we thought we could tell when she was struggling, but in the end we failed her. She had two other young children and her poor husband is managing for them, but is bereft. They had been together since they were teenagers (she was 38). I’m terrified for my parents. They are coping brilliantly, but I worry it is too brilliantly. It is the same pattern I saw in my Grandma when my Uncle died and in my sister - coping too well at first and then… Sometimes I think I’m doing the same, I have kids too and life marches on, but then another wave hits. I saw this forum on my Facebook wall tonight and just wanted to get these thoughts out somewhere. I couldn’t see another suicide based thread, but someone out there must understand. Thank you
Dear @Heidi2 there certainly are other posters who are bereaved through suicide and I’m sure one of them will soon reply to you. I just wanted to let you know you have been heard, and I am so sorry for the sad loss of your sister and your worries for her young family and your parents. There are a number of support organisations and maybe your doctor would be able to recommend some? Please look after yourself, here is a good place to talk if you need, there are so many posters here who understand and care. Sending you love and hugs xxx
Dear Heidi, yes I understand perfectly. Things are a bit hectic this morning but I will send you a private message later on today. You will find a lot of support on here, sadly so many of us have lost loved ones to suicide. Take care, Kathy x
Welcome to the Community. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. There is an organisation called SOBS (Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide). If you go on to the website you can find a local support group in your area. They do have a Facebook page SOBS which would be worth looking at also.
I hope this information is of help to you. Take care.