Some days I write letters to my daughter, as in a journal. Yesterday I wrote to her and asked her (and God) for a sign that she is still with me and around me. Today a title popped up on Netflix, a 12 minute animated video called ‘If anything happens I love you’, about grieving parents following the loss of their little girl in a school shooting. There was a part in it where the little girl (portrayed as a shadow, her spiritual presence), was trying to get the attention of the parents, who were individually consumed by their grief, causing them to distance themselves from one another (she eventually brings them back together). It made me wonder, perhaps we get so consumed, drowning in our grief, that we aren’t focusing on that love, those memories, our connection with them. It also made me wonder, was that my sign. I’m sure our children are deeply saddened to see our distress. Perhaps we should listen to them more…
Hi I right letters to my daughter all the time and fold them up and put them in a box in my cupboard.
She was only 28 an suddenly passed in September I miss her so much and find writing letters to her makes me feel close to her would love some sort off sign from her and have to thinking off going to a spiritual church and hoping for something anything but feel a bit uncertain to,
I no she’s at peace now as she suffered badly with her mental health.
But I haven’t had a cause off death and awaiting for a date
At a coroner 's court.
In which I’m not stressing over and sadly but glad she’s resting peacefully now x
I love that you had this sign and that it has helped you.
My son was found passed away age 40 in November.
No cause of death was found in the post mortem so samples were taken for further testing. As yet we have heard nothing.
He suffered with his mental health and had many setbacks but he was trying so hard recently, he has an 8 year old son and he lived for weekends when he had him to stay.
I would desperately love to see a sign, maybe I’m not ready, I am quite cynical and angry still.
I’m so sorry for you
I don’t feel angry I think I’ve had to stop myself my daughter was with a recent boyfriend she was only with him for
3 weeks in which she was with him and passed into her 3rd week off her relationship with him, And they were together he slept beside off her.
The c i d has tried numerous times to get a statement off him leading up to her last moment’s but he’s not cooperative with the c i d, in which is holding back the inquest
My partner see’s that some sort off justice will be served. because he will be summoned to the coroner’s court when we have a date.
She had hit rock bottom and was suffering in silence in her own head ,
For many years.
I’m trying to take every second off every day as it comes and not thinking about this court but knowing truthfully that in the eyes of the law this is the case.
And keep writing her letters telling her how beautiful she is and she the brightest star in the sky shining bright like the diamond 
she was
I’m very sorry you’re going through this.
It’s the not knowing which just doesn’t help isn’t it ?
Perhaps in time we will get some answers.
Thankyou and your so very true,
Kind regards and best wishes sent straight to you.
No parent should have to ho through this x
My letters to Sarah do make me feel close to her, as you say. It helps keep the connection going. I took have a son, 38, with mental health issues. It is so hard seeing him go through his terrible anxiety, and he was particularly bad in the last weeks of my daughter’s illness, I felt I had one hand reaching out each side of me for both of them. They were very close and it has hit him hard, as well as some other traumas going on in his life. I was so afraid I would lose him too, that he would harm himself. Having darling Sarah with terminal cancer was hard enough, I couldn’t lose him too. Seeing both my children suffer, albeit it in different ways, was torturous, leaving scars that will never fade completely. There is nobody in this world who we love more than our children, and their pain becomes our pain. I do believe in signs, but I also believe if we don’t get them get them it doesn’t mean they aren’t here. I would never go to a spiritualist church though, everyone to their own, but I think these are advocating entering a domain we aren’t supposed to. But we all do what brings us comfort. For me, it’s talking to her, both vocally and through the letters, and I have some of her clothes which I wear. I also have a plush I keep close by, and have spent many a night cuddled up to him. I just want to embrace her, the essence and energy of her, and I believe talking about her helps with that.