It’s a fascinating topic. I’ve had a particular interest in the idea of susceptibility for a long time and I’ve read lots of articles, books and research documents over the years. My particular interest was to do with learning development and whether in certain conditions people could reach a heightened learning experience. Could there be added value and, if so, why.
I’m making clear distinctions between gullibility, susceptibility and heightened awareness.
To my mind it is possible to create situations which maximise the learning potential and a heightened experience.
With regard to the process of grieving it’s pretty obvious that we feel vulnerable, and that we are probably a bit more susceptible to certain ideas, particularly if they seem to be common to others. On the face of it this seems to be more than that and it’s beyond my Comprehension. In a period of grief do some people have a heightened awareness and are senses more finely tuned. I’m trying really hard to keep an open mind.
I never envisaged that I would be questioning such matters.
I like that you question YorkshireLad. You throw good, intelligent thoughts at us. You bring a great deal to the table for which I thank you. I relish thought provoking conversation. It’s one of the things I miss most with my husband. We also lost our best friend 12 months before my husband passed and he was a great conversationalist.
With regards signs, I have to believe there’s something more, otherwise what’s the point? What’s it all for? I refuse to believe that this is it. No concrete evidence, just belief…
Hi Stevie
I will explain something Stevie ,it’s up to you whether you choose to believe it or not,since my husband passed along with many other experiences,i’ve heard whispering in my right ear,this started a few months after his passing and i thought it was just my ears,although the thought had crossed my mind there was a possibility of something else.This whispering is still there most days,especially when sitting in stillness in the bedroom,so i decided to record the whispering.As Spirit are energy,like the radio picks up sound waves we cannot see,then i thought maybe i can pick up voice from Spirit.So this is exactly what i did,i recorded through the night in silence,no music,radio or tv on nothing.So when i heard the whispering and feel the energy in the room around me i start recording.
The results from that are more than i expected,i have recordings,some of the words spoken are clear,i can hear more than one Spirit,there is a conversation going on ,others have listened and they hear it too.Also i speak to my husband a lot as we all do to our loved ones,what i have said is answered on those recordings.He heard me and he responded.
Just hold on to what you know and feel Stevie as your Denise is around you ,Spirit is around everyone,always have been and always will be.xx
Robina, I hold on to what you say is me or does she need to try harder. Do they feel the need to contact us as much as we need them xx
Oh Stevie, I would really like to think so…
Hi
Some find it easier to connect than others,that applies to us here and our loved ones.They love to show us they are still around,we need them and they know that,however they can see and hear us whenever they wish,pity it didn’t work the other away around,as that would be wonderful.
Like here in life we are all better or not so good at some things as others.we cannot do everything,they can’t either.
It’s hard to get a stronger connection,sometimes for reasons i won’t understand till i go myself,a sign can be strong,no mistake,some Spirit are better at certain signs than others.
Same here ,some people don’t have to try to connect,their loved ones give signs spontaneously without even asking or thinking of it.
We are all born with more abilities than we think,and you can develop those abilities to a stronger level.You can work on hearing more,you can work on seeing more,feeling more,knowing more.Best to read and research this info as there is a lot of learning and patience needed for to achieve it.
Yet we will still only be given what we are meant to receive,we are not in charge of that Spirit is.Yet they know we are impatient and whatever we are given ,we will always want more,it would never be enough.
Stronger connection is given when in quiet,or silence,as usually there is too much background noise around,people,Tv ,computers etc.In silence you could give this a try,ask your Denise for a specific sign,say something like “would you flicker the light” and wait ,if the light flickers,ask again,if it flickers ask again,so 3 times,for validation.A lot of patience is needed,and you have to trust it will happen,also Spirit are always in the present,they don’t have time like we do.So if you ask for a specific sign it may come instantly,or in a few days or weeks.
They love us like they always did,nothings changed that way,and they will try their hardest to show us,no matter how long that takes.
Yes sometimes we have to try harder here,it’s definitely worth it.xx
Hi Stevie
Forgot to add when asking for a sign,you say it from the heart.I know you love your Denise,that is without question,but you have to visualise,and send love with your request.Love is the strength between us and our loved ones,that is what the connection is all about.Don’t be discouraged if what you ask does’n’t happen,try another specific sign to ask for,as like i said,some are better than others at different signs.xx
Thank you so much Robina for explaining so much to us. I speak to Brian every day when I go to the cemetery. I sit and close my eyes, listen to the birds song. One of my dogs sits quietly by my side and I gently massage her neck. I visualise Brian walking up the path through the trees towards me, I have never seen him yet, but if a bird is singing beautifully I imagine it’s him as he had such a good voice. At night in bed I hold a locket with some of his ashes and a photo inside and put it on my heart and beg him to come to me, however lately he has been very quiet, has he deserted me, I wonder, have I done something to upset him and if he can see me, why can’t he do something to take away my pain, why can’t he comfort me as he would have done in life. The latter is something I can’t understand. I’m even beginning to convince myself that he no longer thinks of me.
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It would explain the choice of paintings if I had seen the article but…I had never read it.
On that date I was away on a course, as my partner quite often had items written in the press concerning exhibitions, which I always then safely kept, I was totally unaware of the existence of this article.
I kept details of all press cuttings that I knew about, this one was not in my collection.
Thanks guys I’m taking this route. If one person could be tough enough to send a message to me it’s Denise I will be waiting fo that definitive sign xxx
Ah well…that theory doesn’t work then!
Did you read the article on coincidences in the link though,?
My husband was a total sceptic and shared your thoughts on charlatans, and as I’ve posted elsewhere can’t see he would send me a sign as it would prove him wrong!!
I am open minded myself but always hear in my mind what he would be saying if he were here so try to look at it from both sides.
Xx
Interesting!
Maybe my partner had shown me the actual paintings at some time, that is if he was particularly pleased with them, but I hadn’t registered the fact being engrossed in something else.
Hi Robina, I’ve just been reading your post on signs , since my son passed away 6 weeks ago I’ve been hoping to get a sign from him so I know he’s there .I do feel sometimes he is, especially when I feel really distressed and not coping .I’m going to speak to him and ask for one .I’d love just one small thing to happen so I know he’s here . Maybe he thinks I’m not ready yet as I’m not coping well at all and I’m still in shock as I can’t believe he’s gone and I will never see him again .hopefully one day he will give me a sign . Xx
I think we can have memories on a subliminal level, totally not remembered yet there just the same.
I don’t want to spoil what might be of value to you just trying to bring a more logical reason to mind.
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Absolutely right. We collect percepts, or incidental knowledge, all the time. Quite often we can provide answers to things and have no idea how. I remember a story from years ago where a young student had provided the correct answer but couldn’t provide a rational pathway and so was denied the mark for getting it right. There is no ‘value’ attributed to perception.
No you aren’t spoiling anything, as I said I tend to be a sceptic, always looking for logical reasons.
Just after a few things happening was beginning to doubt myself and my reasoning.
Reading the article put things back into perspective.
Thank you.
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No you aren’t spoiling anything, as I said I tend to be a sceptic, always looking for logical reasons.
Just after a few things happening was beginning to doubt myself and my reasoning.
Reading the article put things back into perspective.
Thank you.
X
I’m pleased you found the article useful.
Xx
Hi Pattidot
Your husband would not desert you,the love is always there,gets stronger not weaker.The bond never breaks,regardless of time here.You also would not upset him,whatever choices we make after our loved ones pass,are the ones we are meant to make.We are still meant to learn and grow here,until it’s our time to go too.
Yes it is very hard,and we all have days where we are tired,and feel like giving in.We have a choice,feel like a victim,and spend the rest of our lives angry,and unable to make some use of our time,which in my opinion would create an even deeper sadness or keep open to what we can do to help ourselves here and choose to learn and grow from what we are given.
We can so easy think we are left alone here,abandoned,left to struggle,actually we are never truly alone,Spirit surrounds all of us.It’s there,but we here doubt anything that cannot be seen,we always seek proof by having to see before we accept.
Spirit know that and continue to show signs,until we realise,they want us to acknowledge that they haven’t left us.You keep thoughts of your lovely husband around you because he will be xx
Hello Faith
Your lovely son,will be around you.Grief can be a barrier to a strong connection,as Spirit are on a higher frequency of energy than we are,our energy here is dense,heavier,slower.When our grief is heavy and we are feeling it badly,then our energy is depleted,our mood is very low,the connection is harder to achieve.However Spirit are determined and will always try to give that comfort that they are there.
The higher our energy,meaning higher mood,relaxation,and calm emotions,raises our energy to a higher level,and can achieve a better connection to feeling and knowing they are there.I know this is a hard task to feel,we grieve,we are weighed down by sadness,so yes it is easy to say,hard to achieve,but it’s there,and is always around.You need to feel your grief,that is the way to moving towards healing,we cannot rush it or pretend we feel a little better when we don’'t,we have to feel it all.
Spirit know much more than we do,they know where we will be,what we say,how we feel,that is how they send signs,they give them at the right time in the right situations.
Talk to your son,he will hear you.
My beliefs are strong,and I understand everyone has their own opinion,when it comes to discussion of what happens when we pass.
My own experiences tell me your lovely son will be around you,I have no doubt of that .xxx