I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to get out and meet people. Everyone says I need to help myself and get out but I don’t know how or were to go.
I hate my life
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Hi,Paupet,
Is there any bereavement groups in your area ? I am in one in Northumberland, we meet for coffee, every two or three weeks at the hospice. It was very daunting at first and strange. It seemed very clickey at first, but i feel part of the group now. I know it’s not for everyone, but it could be worth a try.
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@Paupet
I really sympathise with this. I’ve said I’m completely the wrong personality to be in this situation. I’m quiet and reserved. I’m one of life’s supporting acts and was quite happy and content that way. So I have the added pressure of trying to become someone I’m not whilst suffering with loss. I’m also hindered by hearing issues which makes me feel vulnerable.
I have signed up to start Tai Chi in a couple of weeks hoping that will get me out regularly at least. I hope I can cope. I work from home in a now solo company so that doesn’t help.
Do you work?
Are there any activities you think you might like to try? Or anything you’d like to learn, so courses to try. I know how tough this is.
Where in Lancashire are you? Town or rural?
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Paupet, I feel the same as you. I don’t know how to get out. I’m completely lost, too. People say be kind to myself and I don’t know what that means. But one thing I do know is not to feel pressurised by anyone to do anything. Just take every moment as it comes and breathe through that moment. The moments will extend into seconds, then minutes, then hours, then days. And in time, you may feel that you have the motivation to go out. My husband died 17 months ago and it’s not yet getting any easier. I just take every moment as it comes. One idea is to put some music on that may help.
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