I lost my husband last August, I miss him every day but these last few weeks have been even worse. I don’t feel like I want to do anything, I’m just so sad and so lonely. I have a few really good friends who ring most days but I still can’t get over this feeling of loneliness. Most mornings I wake and feel ok but then for no apparent reason the feeling of sadness comes over me and I get very tearful, I have my two beautiful dogs and I am so glad that I have them, they keep me going, but I just want these awful feelings to subside.
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Hello @Tara131,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Dear Tara
I’m sorry you too have lost your husband and I’m also sorry your post seems to have gone unnoticed, this happens occasionally.
I don’t have any answers I’m afraid, I lost my husband 8 months ago and still feel scared, sad and lonely. The only way I get through the days is by keeping busy and wearing myself out. I make so many lists of jobs and try and work my way through them. I’m selling our beautiful home (I can’t live there now) so that has given me lots to do.
My children wanted me to have counselling, also sleeping tablets. I did have the tablets and broke them in half when I was desperate for sleep. I’m keeping the rest just incase I need them. Some people think pills help, you could speak to your GP? I tell them I’m sad not depressed, how can tablets help with missing your other half.
The lighter morning have helped a little as I sit outside a lot. I’m hoping for me a new house and the dog I’m going to get will give me some peace.
I hope some of the very wise and helpful people of this group will be along to offer better advice.
Take care, Helen
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Hi Tara, I’m sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time at the moment. I’ve had a couple of rough days and I’ve had to make an effort to control myself and build on little things to get some control. As our situation isn’t going to change we have to adapt ourselves and I know that is difficult but I’m sure our loved ones would want to see us happy. I find walking helps to clear the mind and I’ve been walking and walking. It also tires the body which helps with sleep. I also find looking for beautiful things in nature a good exercise and l like to think I’m sharing these things with my wife.
I would suggest that there are lots of people here who might help you more but it’s easier to find people on" how’s your day going today" etc.
I really hope you feeling better today
Wishing you all the strength you need
Tom
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I know exactly what you mean. The sorrow hits hard and lingers. My best friend passed two weeks after my husband four months ago and I have no anchors anymore. Sometimes it is unbearable and sometimes it subsides a bit.
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Sorry for your loss. I lost my partner of 40 years in a September last year. I thought I was dealing with it by month 4 but since months 5 and 6 I’ve been feeling really bad again and the grief just overwhelms me. I think the reality of it all is setting in. Friends don’t come over as much and this enhances the loneliness. People have their own lives to lead I suppose. Just going to the shops makes me feel a little better. My sister stays over a couple of nights a week which is great too. I can’t offer you any solutions but keep posting on the forum, We’ve all been on the grief path.
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