I am really having a bad day just lots of silly things going wrong. I am so tired the sadness is so consuming i cant keep struggling its like an uphill struggle but not even getting anywhere, i dont think i have the strength to carry on i just want this pain to go away.
I just want to go to sleep and not wake its the only way i can find peace
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I understand why you feel like this. I can’t pretend I haven’t felt the same. Try to focus on one small positive thing. Kids? Pet? Nice plant in the garden or a meal you enjoy. Because you know there will be a day that’s a bit better than this. Sending a hug. X
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I don’t know if it’s because I am stressing as moving house and nothing is going to plan but feel the same. I am snippy, emotional at the drop of a hat and I just want my mum back. I wasn’t bad this morning but went to see my uncle in hospital where she worked it was torture all I could see was her in her uniform everywhere saying come on hen just follow me as I always got lost. This journey is awful
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Hi mum sometimes its so hard to even carry on i dont see anybody its as though bereavement is some form of disease neighbor’s just ignore you friend’s just drift away family all live a distance away its like your forgotten. It does get so lonely perhaps thats some .kind of punishment all your left with everyday are your thought’s.
I will overcome my feelings and and look forward to another day maybe better than today’s
Kind wishes and hugs
Thank you mike
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Mate I know how you feel, at the funeral you are surrounded by people hugging and kissing you and asking if there’s anything they can do then poof, they’re gone.
If you manage to keep your self under control people think your ok.
If you are sad and crying people are uncomfortable being around you.
You can’t win.
Being lonely is a symptom of grief and will eventually ease with time,if we’re lucky, I have been in amongst people close to me and still been lonely, lonely for the one I lost, no one else will do.
Grief also makes you think things that are not true, people avoiding you etc. thoughts are not facts. If I thought someone was avoiding me I would ask them, people often don’t know how to deal with us.
Hang on in there mate.
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Thank you for your kind words it is so true i get so depressed that 8 moths ago we had a life friend’s neighbours even family then its like a time warp everything stands still life seems so cruel 
if only those people who we were close to would realise that we are human with feelings not to be pushed away and left to dwell on the loss of our loved ones, even a little sympathy would help
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Hello @Sadnow I sometimes can keep busy to hold the pain at bay but today it is too much to bear . I have been left behind my most people even though it’s only 8 weeks since my husband suddenly died . I have my adult son at home and he is struggling worse so it’s very hard
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Hi jol i can understand how you are feeling my wife of 51 years passed away suddenly just before Christmas. Until then we had visits from friends and neighbours then nothing do they not think that we are in pain from such a tragic loss, it feels like we are socially imperfect.
I get so angry that people can be so quick to think that we’re ok when we are Not, grief is a nightmare that nothing prepares us for.
Please try to be positive it is a terrible thing to lose someone and to carry on but I’m sure they would all want us to continue with our lives.
I can hear my wife in her stern voice ‘pull yourself 
together remember all the great memories you must not be sad’
Few words but she really did mean it.
Take care we are all here to support you
Sending hugs Mike
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Thanks Mike for your kind message . Big hugs back to you
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I hope that you can overcome your sadness. i hope that some of my experiences over the last few months may help i know its no consolation but you can message I’ll try and help like all the other kind people on this forum
Take care mike x
Ditto!! I have no one and the loneliness is cruel, my children have ‘moved on’ as they say. I am not brave and have a tremor so don’t socialise any more.
I feel so strongly for you and really hope that things get better xx
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