My dear brother was diagosed with pancreatic cancer on 5th nov, he passed away last night, it was so quick and unexpected, he had only just turned 53.
My family are in total shock and disbelief.
His Mcmillan nurse said they knew that the prognosis wasnt good but did not expect for him to pass after only 23 days!
My head is all over the place, why so quick? I know pancreatic cancer has a very poor outcome, but just cant get my head around the speed that it took him.
Hi @Toto
I’m Kate, a part of the Sue Ryder Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to contact Pancreatic Cancer UK who have a range of support on their website: Support for you - Pancreatic Cancer UK
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Kate
Sue Ryder Online Community team
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My condolences. I expect he had been very ill for some time, but, being a man, hid it. Men are funny creatures - a cold will lay them low with man-flu, but a critical illness…? Well, they just carry on and think the symptoms will go away. My Dad was like that. He also faded away after only three weeks from diagnosis. I read in his diary that he had been having various symptoms for ages - almost six months - so by the time he went to the doc because he couldn’t poop properly, he was nearly gone anyway. Be kind to yourself, be there for your family. I don’t know what else to say x
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I’m so sorry for your loss. As I read your words it felt like I had written it. My brother passed away from pancreatic cancer on 20th October less than 3 weeks after diagnosis. As you say it was such a shock and I can’t stop wondering why so quick when we were told 3-6 months.
I wish I had some wise words of comfort but there is nothing that anyone can say that makes this any easier to bear. All I’ve been doing is taking one day at a time. I have found talking about it helps me to process things. Here if you want to talk.
Take care
M
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