I have recently posted about the sudden lose of my mom that has hit me hard. Me my mom and the in-laws were planning on going to Warwick Castle tomorrow (Friday 25th), which I still plan to do as it’s something for the kids, but I feel extremely sad and guilty because my mom was supposed to be coming with us. Also, we had plans to meet friends on Saturday afternoon for food at their home. Again, I’ve agreed to still go as I want to take my mind off things and it involves the children but feel guilty. Will I be wrong for doing these things so soon after my mothers death?
That’s a question only you can really answer. However, I don’t think you’re ‘wrong’ for going out after your Mother’s death. Life goes on and perhaps the more important question is do you think you will get some enjoyment out of the day (you’ve hinted that it may take your mind off things). Your Mum would probably be pleased that you are taking this small step to move on with your life by going out and meeting with friends later. Best wishes
@NeilMc I think guilt is a part of the grieving process. As we are carrying on doing the things they should be doing. If you feel it’s really preventing you from enjoying that time, couldn’t you take something of your mum’s with you, that way you’ve not forgotten her. I know I’d be the same. X
What would your mum want you to do? I bet it’s exactly what you’re doing xx
Thank you guys. I know my mom would like me to be happy and continue to go out and do things, especially if it involves the children, as she adored and lived for them. She would like me to make sure they’re happy. I like the idea of taking something of hers with me. I may do that. Thank you again everyone.
Sorry to hear your loss. I’m sure your mum would be saying “go out and enjoy yourself”. They always want the best for us. Would be a lovely idea to take something with you. Maybe a photo in your pocket, or a treasured possession. Tell her you are doing it for her. You may even get a sign from her on the day to show she’s around (I’m not too sure I believe in signs, but I try to look out for them; and it gives me comfort thinking she’s around watching over). Lost my mum 3 months ago. You’ll definitely know if you do get a sign. You just get that feeling she’s around. xx