Hi, just over 2 months ago, I lost my father. He was diagnosed with liver cancer mid may and then passed away from it 4 weeks later on 17th June, everything was so fast and hard. I was and still am absolutely devastated. But there is one thing that’s helped me feel slightly better. I bought him a book around 5 years ago called ‘dear dad’ (there are mother, daughter, son etc too) and it is basically a book of questions for them to answer, all about their own lives, from their birth, through school and work up until later life. Each page has a question at the top and is then blank to write their own answer in. My dad done this book for me about 5 years ago when he was fit and well and I never read it. After he passed, I got it out and was scared to read it for a little while at first but recently I decided to and I read it all in his voice and felt like I was still learning from him despite him not being here any more. I was scared to finish it because I knew once I did, then it would be over but I know I can always read it again and if you have someone close to you that is terminally ill and still maintain the ability to write, I would honestly recommend getting them one of these books to complete for you. You can then either read it with them or wait until after they’ve gone and use it as a way to make it feel like they are still here with you in one way or another. I cried all the way through my dads one but I also had a smile on my face all of the way through.
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They will be able to learn things about him they’ve never known before and keep it forever. I tried to post a link but it won’t allow me. But googling ‘dear dad book’ will get you the right results. The blue and green one with the brown tree on the cover is the one I got.
I also let my own 10 year old son read my dads one, he finished it in one night and came back to me with his eyes filled and said “will you also do one of these for me please?” so I will be getting one myself for my own kids. I would recommend them to anyone.
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