Our lovely daughter in law died 3 months ago, just 4 months after her diagnosis of inoperable stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
They have no children . My husband and I are trying to be as supportive as we can - visiting regularly and phoning a couple of times a day. He’s been particularly low this last few days so we stayed last night and will stay tonight. Chatting when he wants to, just being around or helping with the dog. Just now he’s told us he " doesn’t really want to be here" he says he’s not suicidal, but just can’t see the point of anything or doing anything.
Any suggestions for how to help him would be so helpful…I just don’t know what to do. I know it’s early days…
1 Like
I lost my wife in feb and our gp was of great help and having some thing to do does help l ken have 2 westie dogs and walking in the fresh air helps also l have a councillor through cruise. The problem is each journey for eash of us is so very differant . You are doing great just giving support l am so very very sorry for your loss but having a day at a time helps just handle what is happing to day thoughts and pray to you all ken oxford
2 Likes
Thank you, I will suggest he gets in touch with his GP. He has joined a group WAYs( widowed and young).
So sorry you are going through this too, sending you strength.
Lucy
Hello @Woodlore, I lost my partner in February, we were together for 20 years. I am so sorry that your son is going through this. For me it helps to try and have a little routine, getting out helps even if it’s just in the garden. Try and get him to write down how he feels, I have an A4 hard cover notebook that I write in, some people write in them every day how they feel, I use mine to write, when I feel the need, like I am writing to my partner. If your son has his wife’s wedding ring ask him if he would like a chain so he can wear it around his neck. Help him find a piece of her clothing that they both really liked, he might get comfort from holding it. Maybe asking if he wants to use this site as for me it’s a comfort to know that I am not the only one that is on this journey, as sometimes I feel so alone. It’s great that you are so supportive. I hope these few ideas help. Sending you strength and hugs 
1 Like
Spiky1 thank you.
I am sorry for your loss and grateful for you taking time to share your ideas., which I’ll pass on to him.
Getting out and walking their dog helps him and now the lighter nights are here he’ll find it easier to do that after work.
Sending you strength as you find ways to help with your grief.
Lucy
1 Like