My son Alex chose to end his life on the 27th october 2022. There were no signs he was going to do this i saw him the night before as did a few other people and he was happy go Lucky. He had struggled wirh addiction and mental health for around 10 yrs but there were no indications he had deterioted. I am really struggling to get my head round it all . It still feels fake even though his ashes are at the side of me. I feel numb and i dont know what to do . I am lucky that i can take some time off work but i needt go back soon how do i go back to work when i dont think his deatth has hit me
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so sorry to hear this. go to work when you are ready x
Im so sorry to read of your tragedy. I have recently lost my Brother to suicide, its truely devastating and leaves you with so many questions. X
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Sorry to hear all this such sad news. My daughter took her own life aged just 19. I did not see it coming that night, because she was sectioned with no hope of getting out and was poorly treated I think she may have just given up. Christmas was very difficult I don’t know how you get through these times it’s so hard to keep going on, but we have to try and make some sense of it for our own sanity. I am not a believer that everyone makes a plan ir writes a suicide note, some people I know do, but I think a lot of people like my daughter it’s very impulsive and they are not thinking straight in that moment or that day. X
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I am so sorry and my daughter took her own life a month after your son. One minute I can be pragmatic about it and like you numb and the next Im just in pieces. What I have found is that there is no right way or wrong way to be or feel and I dont have to go looking for my grief. I do as much as I normally can whilst being gentle on myself and the grief finds me in its own time. It will be different for each of us. x
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So sorry for your loss. I have just followed a link and joined as i am finding each day difficult. My son ended his life on the 14th October 22. It feels like I’ve just been told. I went back to work after 6 weeks which wasn’t helpful but now i do think i need that or i don’t know what i would do with my day. My son has a 3 year old boy and we have a grandson of 6 months by my daughter. Sorry rambling a bit but they are keeping me going and pull me through each new day.
Some days are more manageable than others. Try to find some comfort in whatever you can. I find time alone helps me to allow myself time to think about my son and cry. Day at a time is all we can do.
Do whatever you can manage. Sending my love.
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Thankyou for your words . I am still off work but they are being very supportive with me . I feel a bit less all over the place these last few days but then i feel like i shouldn’t feel like this yet as its only being 14weeks. I have Alexs inquest in 2 weeks and i have set myself a milestone to ho back to work after this. Xx
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However you feel each day is really ok. I find myself getting upset when i feel ok doing something and then my reality suddenly hits me. You take care while that date is near. My son’s inquest is beginning of march but it will be a paper one. Take care xx