When my wife, Penny, died one month before our golden wedding, I was (like everyone of you) absolutely bereft/shattered/mangled/distraught (You get the the idea! Fill in the emotions, they are endless, aren’t they). That was almost 3 years ago, but it still hurts, but less).
What on earth shall I do to fill the gaping void in my life, and survive? I had to do something!
I never quite figured out what Penny’s preference was in music, it was almost nothing I liked!! .
Then a few years before she went, I took her to a Moody Blues concert in Sheffield, and to my delight she loved it!! One song, “to my lady” had a great effect on her, and for some reason she said, “play this at my funeral”. As it turned out, I did better I sang it and got all the people there to join in! An absolutely brilliant memory for me!
Anyway, one song was etched into my brain, a wonderful orchestral arrangement, I often played it on youtube to myself, and it made me think "I’d love to do that! "Or at least have a go!!
They say music calms the savage breast, but it also calms the bereaved mind.
So in the (almost) three years since she left I’ve:
Joined another ukulele group
Joined a banjolele group
Bought a keyboard
Joined a couple of harmony choirs
Bought a flute, and having lessons. This one is REALLY important to me, and inspired by the intro to this song.
I might add that my new musical efforts have given me bucketfulls of new friends, and shiploads of self pride, and been a really major part of my recovery. Which started with this song, so thankyou the Moody Blues, and particularly Ray Thomas and his flute.
If anyone replies, I can’t play!, the only appropriate answer is : OFF COURSE YOU CAN!!!
So I hope you enjoy the Moody Blues with this absolutely epic performance.
PS I’ve said I want this played at my funeral party. Life is Strange, isnt it
Hi Turkey,
Aww I remember you posting around the time my mum passed in Dec 2022. So lovely to read about you and your musical progress. How wonderful!. You have done so much. What an inspiration you are to do many on this journey.
It’s such a hard difficult journey, no two people are the same, no right or wrong ways of dealing with grief and so on.
Music is a wonderful way to heal. In so many ways. And you are exactly right with the friendships you have made.
Wow I bet you did both yourself and your wife proud when you sang at her funeral. What a tribute. Well done on being strong enough to perform that day
Sending all best wishes to you and your musical future
Deborah x
Thanks @seychelles . I asked my flute teacher (a delightful young lady who just qualified from University) if she had other elderly pupils. She said, of course I have, some as old as 22!!! I’m 77 and she didn’t even think of me as a geriatric
I took that as a compliment!
I would encourage everybody to think about joining me. If you don’t think you can play an instrument (remember, I’m still only learning) try a choir. Unless you do it, you will never appreciate the incredible joy of singing with loads of new friends , particularly if you perform in front of people who have actually paid to listen to it! The feeling is amazing, and you don’t even need to sing, because your new mates with happily cover for you!
I thought you might like to hear a clip of one of our choirs, performing a million dreams . https://drive.google.com/file/d/18gEzKLKi4KbhBZIg6y4UKmF6ETNbx5_w/view?usp=drive_link
And there’s not an experienced singer among us, moistly old folk, like me, trying to make the best of life, very often suffering from bereavement.
Apparently I’ve made a pigs ear of the million dreams and you might not be able to access it
Deborah, can you now see it?
Hi,
Yes I just listened to it. Absolutely beautiful.
Don’t worry I was told permission needed to be given first before I could open it. I just clicked yes then it arrived.
I hope everyone else can access it bec it’s worth it.
Thank you for sharing it Tykey.
Keep going with your music and let us know how you are getting on
Deborah
That’s really beautiful - made me cry bucket loads