Springtime has come round the second time since my husband died and the blossom has just flowered again outside my window. We tended the tree he always pruned every year and it looks just as good as when he was alive. Beautiful white blossom which will soon fall. Feels like a new start this Spring after his old car went. On Wednesday at night after all this time standing in our driveway and I went to my first spa day in my life my son took me to for a belated Christmas/birthday present because I felt so depressed.
My son reminds me of my late husband when he was his age. Not the old man he became at the end. It reminds me life goes on and hope he would have been pleased if he was still here.
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Hi @Enorac ,
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
I’ve just been on another thread talking about how hard the seasons are. I’m not as far as you into this journey @Enorac but I love your idea about looking after the tree your husband cared for as a link to him. I will try and do similar with my husbands rose bushes (I have a lot to learn!) I’m sure your husband would be very proud of your son and you for carrying on for him. I lost my husband 3 weeks ago and my son seems to have become more like him overnight x
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I am sure it will help you caring for your husband’s roses.
However I tried to care for my dad’s fuscias years ago but took me years to learn how. But roses easier. I learned how to save geraniums through my mistakes. I still use his old plant flower tubs although a bit drunk looking now. I keep his mum’s memory alive by planting the marigolds each year she showed me how to do. It got me through the first year gardening both when my dad and husband died.
When the birds come into the garden it is like a little messenger as he always fed them so I do. And they still nest there as well. Birds are so friendly and our old cat is amused. Hugs
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My Peter died suddenly watering his young plants in the garden last May.I felt compelled to look after them so I spent all summer growing vegetables I had never grown before It was a great help to me and I was quite successful.I also look after all the flowers in the garden always have it’s good for the soul.I’m sure you will feel comfort from doing it.x
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My wife (the head gardener) died last October and I am trying to maintain the garden as she would like it to be. So much so that I have volunteered to enter it for the local Open Garden Day. Not sure if this is a good idea or not but it certainly concentrates the mind. I find gardening quite relaxing and is a positive way of getting fresh air and exercise. One just has to keep moving forward.
Good luck and best wishes to all you gardeners out there.
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