Lost my much loved Husband nearly 8 weeks ago suddenly to heart attack he was 65.
He has 3 grown up children age 42,41, & 36. My husband was adopted so his kids were his only blood, so he always loved his children, sadly I don’t think they felt the same, all of them being very money - oriented , there Mother re married a " rich man" and their new “Step Dad " could offer them more in the way of finance than their Father could. and for whatever reason all 3 of his children all had very little if not no contact for the past decade, to the point where the step father gave his daughter away at her wedding, my husband didn’t even go, when the daughter became pregnant after years of ivf she sent my husband a scan photo, he was over the moon to become a grandfather, but he never met his grand daughter, she is 3 now! even though they live only a few miles away ! , and it wasn’t for the want of him trying. Then elder son’s girl friend has a baby, he didn’t even know! he found out he became a grandfather again when visiting the care home where his Mother lived, a care worker came out and said " oh we saw your new grandchild congrats”! he didn’t even know? and then the younger son , had power of attorney on my husbands Mother finance, and lets just say after she died, My husband received her bank statements, and he wasn’t pleased with some transactions his son had made! upset and disappointed with all of them!
He changed life insurance policies to my name, his original will before we got married was his estate to be divided between his 3 children, but he knew his will would be revoked when we got married, he always said he would do a new will , but he was just too nice and would struggle to leave his children out of the will, he said they should want to spend time with him, not want him for money and valuables, he loved them dearly but they hurt him beyond words. He knew that once we married the will would be revoked and it would be left to me, and he said thats the way he would leave it.
Now I have his three children contacting my solicitor demanding to see the “revoked” will as they know they were mentioned in it, ?? they want to see what their father intended them to have, as they believe they were promised watches? there was never any mention even in the revoked will of watches! They even said they believe their fathers wishes was a clause in the will that if he did re marry that they would still be entitled ! er no this was never in the will.
I feel so upset for my husbands memory, he always thought as he was adopted and came into the world alone he would die alone, I always promised him me would not, and I did manage to get his children around his bedside, when in icu, be it all too late. and when he said they should want him for time, and not money and valuables , well i am gutted for him that even though, they hardly spoke to him for years, denied him his Grand children they think they are entitled. I gave all his children some of his jewellery , and lots of sentimental items, to then be told “They havn’t got much of their Dad”! at the moment they are hounding me for part of his estate, why do they think they are entitled?
I was in a similar situation,we never married but had been together for 38 years in a very happy relationship.He had a son from his marriage,we only saw him twice a year Christmas and Father’s Day he only lives 2 miles away .He’s a very greedy person in every way 18 months before my partners death he fell out with us and told my partner he’d finished with him because we were unable to attend his son my partners grandsons wedding due to us having severe mobility issues.When my partner died very suddenly he didn’t even contact me .It was 5 weeks to the funeral and I never heard anything from him.My partner had given him and his family a decent amount of money a few years ago and told them he was giving it to them while he was alive.After the funeral he came to my house demanding to see the will,then rang the solicitor trying to contest it as I was sole beneficiary.She told him he’d no chance but it still upsets me that he was still showing no respect for his father ,that was last August and I still dwell on it,it’s unforgivable behaviour.
They’re not are they ’ entitled. Dont deal with them yourself !! Tell them to go through solicitors ! How could they do that to him not let him see his grandchildren ? So sorry ! They have to live with that ! Not you 
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I am going through my solicitor , telling them Your Dad owes you nothing! not even an explanation "!
That’s what I am upset about, Nick loved his kids he would be mortified they wanted money more than him x