Hi Nigelg1, welcome to the community. I’m sorry that you are facing a bereavement, please know that this site is full of supportive members who have all lost someone, and i hope you will gain some comfort from sharing here.
To use the site, we have a list of help topics at: community.sueryder.org/pub/help-using-this-site
Please do message the site admins if you need any support with this.
Take good care, Rhi