My dad died nearly two weeks ago now and it still doesn’t feel real. I was there when he took his last breath which he wanted and I thought it would give me comfort but I can’t stop thinking about him, I spent at least a few hours with him a day and we spoke 3/4 times a day on phone. He was the only person I felt was always there for me no matter what and I don’t know how I’m going to cope now. Everything I do reminds me how I’ll never see him or speak to him again. The mental and physical pain hurts so much I don’t know how I’m going to get over this, people keep saying give it time but it keeps getting worst each day that goes by. I don’t know what I’m asking I just want to write down how I was feeling
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Hello @Forevernalways,
Thank you for reaching out, and I hope it has helped a bit to write your feelings down. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. You are not alone - many of our members have lost a parent and will understand some of what you’re going through. You might find our advice on coping with grief helpful to read:
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard.
Take care,
Seaneen
@Forevernalways
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I felt like this about my mum, it’s been 2 months since she passed away. Like you I had a lot of contact with her particularly in her last few years. So when she went it was a huge loss, much greater than I was expecting.
You are very early days, I know that’s not particularly helpful, but you are raw and not wanting to believe it. The reality will hit you, and it will be hard.
I still haven’t come to terms with it, I am struggling with anxiety, which is a normal reaction, but not a nice one.
I’ll tell you what I’ve been told - try to keep your dad’s memory alive, in a comforting way. Talk to him, write him letters, play some music he liked and feel his presence.
Secondly, but very importantly, look after yourself - eat well, exercise, get fresh air, go for a walk, talk to people you meet. If you have a support network of family/friends use them, tell them your feelings, let them help you. In time you may want to get bereavement counselling.
There’s no sugar coating it, what you’re going through and will be going through will be tough. Reach out on here when you need to there’s always friendly and helpful advice from the folks on here.