Still lonely

My husband passed away 25 August 2022. 19 months ago. I am still struggling to cope with the sadness and loneliness I am lucky to have a few good friends but once I have seen them it is back to an empty house and life.


Hi Pakapa, I’m sorry that you are still struggling. It’s not easy on your own. My husband died at the beginning of 2022 and I would say I am in the same situation as you. I see friends very ocassionally but as you say then home to an empty house and life. I don’t think I will ever get used to being on my own after being with my husband for fifty years. I do hope things improve for you in time as I do for myself. Love and hugs.x


Hello loobyloo2. Thank you for understanding I hope that things will improve in time for both of us Take Care x

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So hard isnt it ? Im having a down day today too … had a good couple of weeks but fallen flat on my face this weekend … i went to see my new grandson on saturday and somehow that made it so much worse for me cos i did it alone :frowning: my husband was there with all the other grandchildren but this time he wasnt and its tinged with sadness isnt it ? Even a happy occasion xx

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@Pakapa sorry to hear you’re having a tricky time. My husband died just over 2 years ago and like you I have good times and not so good times. I’m really trying to push myself at the moment to establish a new life including joining new clubs which is really taking me out of my comfort zone but I know I have to do it. Sending you hugs and comfort x

So sorry for your loss
Know how you feel ,lost my husband October 2022 and i am really struggling
It seems reality kicks in
I visit my husband grave at least once a week ,sometimes more,
I try to go out for a walk ,and do go out with friends ,but its not the same as having our Soul mates,
Take Care ,
Big hugs ,

More recent for me, 14 weeks, and I’m so sorry you find yourself here! Loneliness is one of the worst things, I’ve just cooked a meal to eat alone, watched a film that makes me cry a little, like someone else, I’m trying to find anything that will take the pain away, started yoga classes, joined a social meeting club (not a dating thing) way to soon for that, the feeling of emptiness when I get home from work, chill in the house, no one to say “i’m home” to, then a long evening before bed and then do it all over again. It’s a very very bad time, I know some of it will pass and the gaps between the downs will get bigger, but at the moment, I don’t want that, I just want my life back and more than anything else, I want her back! So all I can offer are a few words, stay strong and believe it will get better one day.