It is 3.1/2 years since I lost my beloved Husband Peter of years. We met when I was 15 and he was 18 so in total we were together for 60 years. I still feel so broken and just cannot move on. They say you never get over losing someone like this but have to live along side it. Surely after all this time I should feel better. The tears still flow everyday I miss him so much. I have written in a journal every day since it happened and had some. counselling but nothing seems to help. Does anyone else feel like this after what seems an absolute eternity? I send Love to anyone who is suffering as I am. Moira
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Yes i still do after 26 months we wouldn’t be human if this didn’t happen
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I’m so sorry you cannot find any meaning in your life to move forward. However the point I picked up on was you were together for 60 years. You need to realise how lucky you were. I met my husband at 19. Married 10 months lster. We were together 45 years. Would be my dream to make that 60. Another 15 years sounds perfect. Less time for me to wait to join him. However 45 years of love is a lot more then some people have. Some never know love at all. And as the great man sais, better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all. Unfortunately grief is the price we pay.
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I empathise with you totally. I am the same. I also moved house and area to be slightly nearer to my two sons but they and their families have their own lives and do not grieve as I am grieving and I wish that I had stayed in our old home as I miss everything so badly… I lost my husband to dementia 2 and half years ago and just still feel utterly broken with no real purpose to life . We were married for 54 years but we were engaged for 2 years so altogether 56 years. I don’t think I will ever get over the loss of him as we didn’t have any real friends close by and just did everything together.
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It’s 4 n half years since I lost my husband I I still cry every day. We were together 47 years. This Christmas feels so much worse than the others I can’t bring myself to put the decorations up I just don’t want to. They say time is a great healer but it isn’t for me every day is worse than the last
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I feel as you all do. I lost my husband a year ago and feel worse now than I did when it happened, I was possibly in a bubble at that time. We were together since we were 15 and 17, married for 54 years and I never saw the day when he wouldn’t be here. I have a lot of friends but feel so lonely and sad. I don’t wish to upset my two sons so say very little of how I feel. I try, try, try to keep myself busy and I exercise and do Mindfulness but nothing seems to help. I just pray there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel.
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