It’s been 21 months now since I lost my beautiful wife. I am slowly getting better with my loss but when I hear a particular song on the radio I am reduced to tears again. I miss her so much.
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Oh Geoff, of course music/memories will do this. It’s ok and to be expected no matter how much time has passed since you lost your lovely wife.
At the moment, I cannot listen to any music associated with my husband.
Stick around the forum again, as you know, everyone totally understands; you are in good company and many others will provide much more comfort and wise words than I ever can.
Best wishes to you.
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Thanks for your kind words.
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Geoff - it is the hardest thing we will ever do. Everything I see, hear, smell, touch and taste brings a memory of my husband. It is overwhelming.
It is perfectly okay to cry. Your wound is not healed. We are all just walking wounded and, at least here, we can tell each other everything we are going through and be understood. Only widows and widowers know what this is like.
I am sorry that your wife died. It is soul shattering, isn’t it? You will likely cry at moments for the rest of your life. You will miss her for the rest of your life. It is how we are and it is normal.
It is such a crappy club we were forced to join and which we can not quit.
I am sorry.
Much love.
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It’s so true that we are the walking wounded. I just went out for a walk in the rain, because I was feeling so lonely, and met 2 acquaintances who asked me how I am. I said ‘up and down’ and the reply was ‘but getting there.’ I said ‘No, I’m having to learn to live with it’ This is only my first winter without my husband of 45 years. I am so sad and lonely…only those going through it can understand how horrible it is. I’m never going to get ‘there’ wherever ‘there’ is.
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Thank you for your lovely message. I’m so lonely without her. Family is great but not the same. So sorry for your loss.
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Of course you miss her Geoff. I lost my husband 8 weeks ago and I don’t want to live without him. Life is so bleak and I can’t imagine being without him in the future.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I am exactly the same.
Six and a half months on and I am crying a lot more. I think the enormity of what has happened is sinking in. Having been with my husband all through our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s I am now suddenly alone.
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