Still struggle to live after the death of my son over 4 years agos ago

Losing a child
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My 26 year old son died tragically over 4 years ago in a motorbike collision, I’m still struggling to live my life. I have suffered with my mental health and don’t feel joy in life apart when with my grandchildren (from my deceased son) my other son, who lives nearby and my daughter and granddaughter who lives so far away in Australia.

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I guess I’m hoping things will improve but when?? I also find it difficult to talk to others about how I feel.

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Hello @Samijo,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the tragic death of your son and the lasting impact this has had on your life. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I lost my son too. I recall seeing a statement online that said, you can have lots of people around you and still feel lonely. I think until you have lost a child you might never understand that.

I talk about my son a lot. I want to keep his memory alive, not let anyone forget about him, but life is hard. There are reminders everywhere that your family can never be complete again. It’s hard to accept.

At this time of year it is about making it fun for grandchildren, they deserve the fun and joy that Christmas brings, and we will become better actors as time goes on.

Silently feeling crushed inside. Devastated that your child is not here. Alone with your thoughts. What i have most problems with is ‘at least you still have your memories’ coming from people who have no idea what a dagger to the heart that statement makes, because it is another reminder that it’s all you have.

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