I’m entering my 3rd year of losing my husband at 52 years old . Is it still normal to have days where I don’t want to get up or do anything .? I hold a job and look after the house and my elderly mother , but on a weekend I just don’t feel like doing anything, is this normal . Thankyou
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Hi @Feathers1, I’m so sorry about your husband. I’m just giving your thread a gentle bump as I can see you’ve not had a reply yet.
Yes it is normal. My dear husband died 29th January 6 years ago this month and I also feel the same way as you do most weekends. We often did something special at week ends even if it was a just a bit of a cuddle tucked up in bed together !! Weekends were a time for togetherness all throughout most peoples lives ,and when that special person is not there it leaves a gaping hole for memories to flood in from times when they were here. Much love to you, so many of us feel the same without our dear one xxxx
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Thankyou so much for your reply , it means a lot to know what I’m feeling is normal , even after a period of time . Some days it hurts so much and still doesn’t seems real that he’s gone . He will be forever in my heart xx
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Feathers1
I am so sorry for your loss, i lost my dear wife just over 11 months ago very suddenly and unexpected.It really is normal to not want to get up and do anything.Grief has no timeline and follows no path.It can be such a rollercoaster too so many ups and downs mainly downs and twists and turns.It can hit us unexpectedly too, any time anywhere.weekends can be very difficult for many of us on here.Me personally my dear wife passed on a sunday and i find sundays really hard.we had no children, i have no friends, its just me now in a quiet, sad, lonely ,empty house just as my life is now.It is definitly normal to feel as you are doing.we have to just try and take things day by day, step by step no matter how long it takes.keep reaching out on here, its so important to talk, to share our feelings and try and help each other on this awful road we are travelling on.I hope you are looking after yourself that is so important too.Take care.
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Thankyou brummy for your kind words . Take care of yourself too .
Hi @Feathers1 yes, it is normal; my husband passed away almost 2 years ago and I often feel like that when I have a day without “normal” routines such as work etc. or something to get up for. I had counselling to help me because I went through a phase where everything felt very bleak but now, I embrace the days where I don’t want to do much and use them as reset days for me. I either indulge in some tv watching or read a book and basically chill because some days can be exhausting and we all need some downtime, don’t we! I guess it’s all part of the process, these ups and downs. No 2 people are alike, but we all experience similar feelings and emotions; the trick is to not beat ourselves up over them.
Hope this helps x
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Those words really help , Thankyou x
Feathers1
I hope you are ok? I hope you are having a bearable day.I hesitate to use the word “good” as for me no day feels a good day without my dear wife with me.we have to try and do our best thats all we can do really.we are all different as human beings and we all have different ways we try to manage.Its really hard going, i often say to myself i cant do this anymore but somehow i have got through 11 months without my dear wife being alongside me but i miss her so much, it really has broken my heart losing her.Our lives have changed forever.Take care.
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